Last year one of my children kindly invited us to go on holiday with them - which we did and enjoyed it enormously.
I said at the time that we did not regard this as setting a precedent - it was somewhere that they go each year - and that we did not expect to be asked every time; and if they went alone on another occasion we would not be offended or go into a decline.
They are going again this year and have asked us to go with them - not in the same house this time (as they have another young family going with them) but in a one bed place on the same site of cottages.
WWYD? We had lots of fun last time and would love to go - we know the other young family very well and we know we would get along with them. It is hard to ask my DD's OH what he thinks about it as he is a very kind bloke and would simply say it is fine by him (even if it wasn't!).
I think their reasoning is that my OH is declining with his PD and that getting away on our own is becoming more difficult. There is one place that we still go to each year as a couple as we know it well and know the route and it is not too far away. We have been there every year since the children were tiny. But going anywhere further is a problem as OH becomes very anxious which worsens his symptoms.
If we went with them this year, we would not have to worry about the transport as they have a big car.
I have said that if we come we would expect that they would go off and do their own things and we would not be tagging along all the time; and that we would be happy to look after the children as and when so that they could go out on their own - perhaps for a meal with the other family. And also that we could cook now and again so they could come back to a meal if they all go out for the day.
The site has a swimming pool and a lake and lovely places to walk through the woods - we would be very content doing these things on our own.
Good Morning Thursday 6th August 2026
