Your thoughts appreciated

Some people feel the cold more than others Katek so maybe your DH wasn't as cold as your think. Was he wrapped up? was the sanding quite physical?

From the neighbours point of view was he using a noisy electric sander?

I don't know what PVD is. Well, I looked it up but still don't really know how it affects a person or how a person's environment might affect it.

That aside, sanding wood is quite warming work so if your hubby wasn't feeling the cold, that doesn't surprise me.

I agree the noise of a power sander might disturb neighbours but if he stops by 23:00 I think most people would tolerate it happening every now and then. Every day would be a different matter.

I don't think you should make noise after about 7 30pm as neighbours may have kids trying to get to bed, relax etc. I'm not sure whether cold is a health hazard if you are feeling ok, physically active. Is he wearing a dust mask might be more important.

Men!
I hope he was wearing a mask, however, sawdust from sanding can be lethal -literally.

I think it was just plain daft of him! Like my DH he most likely just didn't think. I once had to go and stop him running the car engine in the garage as he worked on it. The fumes were coming into the house. God knows how much he inhaled.
Of course it was out of order to make that much noise at that time of night. Neighbours would not be happy.

I don't feel the cold like other people (courtesy of the menopause) but even I would draw the line at an unheated garage that late at night.

But then a lot of men are a law unto themselves.

Is your husband trying to prove to himself that he's still fit even though he's not...a sort of denial? I know it's a bit different but I had a friend who was virtually blind but wouldn't have a white stick because he felt it would be admitting that he couldn't see. He finally gave in when he put his hand out for a bus and a lorry stopped

He has permanently cold hands and feet due to the impaired circulation so being in cold temperatures worsens this. I hadn't thought about the physicality perhaps keeping him warmer but I'm not sure how physical he's being with an electric sander. I'm always concerned about any additional strain he may be putting on his heart. He wears a scruffy old fleece in the garage but as for a mask daphne.......!! Seems to view it as some sort of less than manly accessory! Tired of telling him to wear one.

Personally, I would think it antisocial to make a noise that would disturb the neighbours after 9.00pm, in the way you would not normally telephone anyone after that time.

Working in sub-zero temperatures with his health problems is also not wise. he may be warm from the effort of what he is doing, but he is breathing very cold air into his lungs and that is certainly no good for him.

I speak with feeling, a couple of years ago DH made himself very unwell for a week after pushing himself to work on a project in a freezing cold attic - and hos medical problems do not extend beyond high blood pressure and borderline diabetes.

I had heart problems 10 years ago, and now have 2 stents.
We were told that as long as we kept taking the tablets, ate a healthy diet and didn't smoke, it's good to do energetic exercise.
In fact the test I have now at my checkup involves an injection which speeds up heart rate to an uncomfortable level - I don't like the feeling at all!
So hopefully your husband will be OK, Katek.

Could you put an electric heater out there? I think being occupied is much better for older men than sitting in front of the TV. Although it would be better if he could do it during the day.

There's lots of things he could be doing other than watching TV. Point out why you were concerned and offer alternative activities. Good luck!

Fleeces are warm, but ask him to wear a hat ( if he doesn't have much hair) as we lose heat through our heads.Using a sander at 9 is ok, unless you have small children right next door to you ( Is 9 pm late! I phone friends after that time regularly for a chat and they seem happy enough.)

My hubbies has scents too and definitely feels the cold as he gets tightening in his chest so he heats garage if he is out there. It's the cold air breathing that is the problem and he wears a scarf too to keep his wee nose warm!

Not scents - stents!

I must be the worst wife in the world! My husband's got to look after himself. I may occasionally say to him "I think you're overdoing it a bit" - but ... he's an adult.

He has 3 stents. He plays golf every weekend, does 2 gym classes a week and does physical work.

Tend to agree with Grannyknot, you can only advise your husband the rest is up to him.

Typical man! I understand exactly Katyk Similar sort of problems here. However, advice I was given by his 'heart' nurse was that he was an adult and was responsible for his own health and wellbeing. I could just do what needed to be done, diet, advice, encouragement, etc. At the end of the day, it is his responsibility. I remember this advice occasionally, but most of the time I am tearing my hair out (after all, I'm the one who will have to pick up the pieces). Keep strong and remember to look after yourself!

If the neighbours don't like it surely they would tell you. As for your DH he is an adult and there are a lot worse things he could be doing. Isn't he capable of deciding if he is cold?

On my tenancy agreement, the times stated for noise are between 11pm and 7am. I did find my alarm clock going off yesterday at 3am!

If he can use an electric sander in the shed then can he not plug in an electric heater? It would keep him toasty and you happier. Or there are now heated coats you can buy which keep core temperatures warm, look on Amazon and maybe send one to the big man for Christmas for your husband.

In my understanding of men, they will do as they please anyway, so no point in telling them, just go about trying to keep him warmer without him really thinking that you are.

Oh let him do what he enjoys he's a big boy he ll come in if he feels cold Why do we all think it's our business to arrange others lives to our needs He must know all about his illness and what risks he can and can't take or he would never have lived to this age you should be saying a silent 'thank you' that he's found something to keep him occupied and HAPPY ....... or are you really missing him sitting with you ? I ll just leave that one hanging

Who will have to look after him when he gets ill? Poor Katek. OK he's an adult but he's an adult who plainly hasn't thought it through. He's old enough to know better!

Yes, he's old enough to know better, probably does 'know better', but he chooses to behave as he does in spite of all that. Shrug time, methinks. Or nag time. Take your pick. It won't change him.

My DH often does such daft things. When he thinks about it he realises it was stupid and doesn't do it again. I still think Katek's husband just got carried away in the moment and didn't think about the potential implications.

PS I'd have given him what for!!