advice to your 40 year old self

Go with the flow!

I would tell myself that I wasn't too old to go to University and study Spanish, as my Spanish tutor was imploring me to. I made so many excuses - finances, teenage children, husband. How could I spend a full academic year in Spain with all those to consider? I do wish I'd done it

To always follow Anno's advice!! Except...... stop having children!

My advice would be to take the advice I give to others myself

Take your mothers advice and marry him

All the kids will end up leaving home quite early, but it will be ok!

It only gets better. All the little things that worried me in my 20s and 30s seemed insignificant in my 40s. I think that decade has been my favourite to date

Yes, it was my favourite decade too!Although I would tell myself to chill a bit more I think.

There is light at the end of the tunnel and things will get better.

To be aware of healthy eating and not allow the pounds to creep on.

Scrape together the money to get the qualification for the job I'm doing for peanuts.

I would tell myself (25 years on) that 40 isn't old, that I looked good, nice and slim, when in actual fact I didn't feel it. I would tell myself to enjoy my life more and stop worrying about things that don't really matter.

Don't overdo the aerobics. Think of your joints.

Sorry. I was thinking more of what I would advise my DD at 40. Don't think aerobics were invented when I was that age. Don't know what I would have told me.

I would tell myself that a career in the NHS was a waste of time and talent and to start your own business.

Nobody on their death bed ever thought 'I wish I'd spent more time at work'.

I would have told myself.... Just go now, leave him and make a new life for yourself and child. Don't worry what others think.

If I could go back to talk to my 40 year old self, I would say 'don't worry, it will turn out o.k. The selfish pratt that you are married to now will go off with a girl younger than his children, you will divorce him and accidentally meet someone so much kinder (and younger!!) who will make you laugh and will still be kind and make you laugh 23 years later'.

I too would go with, don't overdo the exercise. I wore my hip joints out with a combination of digging and using a stepper for an hour or so every day.

And don't overdo the pain medication so that ten years later your stomach and liver will never be quite the same again.

I wouldn't give my 40 year old self any advice at all. I would just leave myself to get on with it.

I would tell myself "So - you really think that marrying a self-confessed alcoholic is going to turn out well? - Really?"

Don't worry and be happy

I'm with "FlicketyB* , I wouldn't have listened to advice anyway.
Everyone has to learn from their OWN experience.

Grow old completely disgracefully and NEVER join a site like this!!!