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Engagement present?

(21 Posts)
Madwoman11 Sun 31-May-26 15:14:09

Has anyone had grandchildren that have got engaged?
What did you give them as an engagement present?
Ideas please

Calendargirl Sun 31-May-26 16:08:49

Money always welcome.

Don’t think they want ‘stuff’.

Bellanonna Sun 31-May-26 16:26:50

I’d say a voucher would be preferable to actual money

winterwhite Sun 31-May-26 16:30:28

Not sure that it would occur to me to give them a present at all!
I suppose depends up to a point on how many grandchildren you have and how close you are.
Money would need to be a decent amount, whereas ‘that pretty plate’, ‘that frightful vase’ can always be remembered as a ‘a present from grandmother yonks ago’.

Bellanonna Sun 31-May-26 16:44:04

Eons ago girls had a bottom drawer to collect things for their future married life. I never had one of those as I’m probably just not practical enough

ferry23 Sun 31-May-26 16:52:09

John Lewis voucher or money

Judy54 Sun 31-May-26 17:13:32

Yes I think money or a voucher theses days rather than things for their bottom drawer. Especially if they may already be living together and have all the essential household items they need.

kittylester Sun 31-May-26 17:21:00

A bottle of bubbly and 2 special glasses. It's a joyous occasion and not for mundane stuff - there's plenty of time for that in years to come.

An engagement is a time for celebrating.

Georgesgran Sun 31-May-26 17:35:53

Voucher or money and the fizz with special glasses is a nice thought.

shysal Sun 31-May-26 18:57:49

Only one of my 6 GCs is engaged. They sent me a WhatsApp photo of themselves which prompted me to buy a silver frame, very plain and modern. I never had a thank you so don't know whether it was appreciated!

Mamasperspective Mon 01-Jun-26 06:03:21

Voucher to a nice restaurant, tickets for a show/event ... I would go down the route of quality time together/an experience so they can prioritise a date night in amongst wedding planning

AuntieE Mon 01-Jun-26 13:54:52

Ask the engaged grandchild what they want, or ask the parents.

Of course, you want to give them an engagement present. Not to do so is tantamount in my book to saying "I don't care!"

sharon103 Mon 01-Jun-26 14:01:24

I agree with a voucher or money.

MT62 Mon 01-Jun-26 14:04:18

Air fryer

Knitter43 Mon 01-Jun-26 14:39:06

I sent some fizz and they were very pleased - and thanked me!

NotSpaghetti Mon 01-Jun-26 15:02:38

A voucher for a meal out somewhere they love?

My mother-in-law gave my son and daughter-in-law an antique silver bon-bon type dish.

My (now) daughter-in-law said to me later that she thought it spoke to my mother-in-law's age (100 then) and that silver was probably considered quite precious when she was young.

I know they didn't really want it - but they will certainly keep it as they will remember the love that came with it.

It's the love we remember I think.

4allweknow Mon 01-Jun-26 17:09:21

I wouldn't bother with a gift, just a card. Especially if the couple are already cohabiting. Save it all fir the wedding gift.

poppysmum Mon 01-Jun-26 17:53:58

as many already live together so many have what they need not to mention many are fussy! it all has to designer etc i think money or vouchers are beter

Bellanonna Mon 01-Jun-26 18:26:59

kittylester

A bottle of bubbly and 2 special glasses. It's a joyous occasion and not for mundane stuff - there's plenty of time for that in years to come.

An engagement is a time for celebrating.

Excellent idea for a celebration

Mojack26 Tue 02-Jun-26 14:28:42

Money and a nice bottle of Fizz or a voucher for a fancy meal. Young people do not need/want stuff as many already have a home,together... If not ask them if there is anything they would like or need?

FranP Tue 02-Jun-26 19:09:36

Amazon vouchers go down well