Disturb sleep

Apparently I snore, throw my arms about, talk in my sleep, sing in my sleep, knock things off my bedside cabinet …. That’s according to my son whose bedroom is next to mine. 🤭🤭

I bought an Anti Snore pillow last week but not helping much. I have bought some Breathe Right Nasal strips so will let you know how those go. Not sure what else I can do.

I am a bit younger than your husband but also fit and healthy, don’t smoke and very rarely have an alcoholic drink.

Oh my poor mum had to suffer the night time antics of my dad. He would be working/welding in his sleep. he would be an S.A,S army man getting and hiding under the duvet, tell my mum to shush!! they will here you!

He once jumped out of bed, thought he was diving in a some kind of river or pool, dived right into the jug and bowl on the dressing table smashed it and cut all his face ( you know the big jug and bowl you used to put hot water in for a wash like an ornamental one)
I know it sound like a comedy sketch and I didn't realise what my lovely mum had to go through. My dads mind was so active, in his mind he never stops working, he was a hard grafter, doing heavy manual jobs.

He still has these episodes , my mum is not here any more, so he only disturbs himself ( hopefully mot the neighbours)

In the end my mum insisted in single beds, even on holiday.

I think my DH is worse if he drinks strong coffee.

I woke up the other night sitting up in bed and pouring something out of a jug! Of course I didn’t have a jug but my hands were doing all the motions.

I have been like this for several months. I see your husband has been like this for a few years.

I think you should tell your DH to see a doctor. There is a condition called REM Sleep Behaviour Disorder, and there is some medication that can help.

In the meantime, if your bed is large enough, he can sleep with a pillow on either side of him for his own safety.

I have been known to act out dreams even climbing on furniture, shouting out and even screaming. It is particularly bad when I am under stress and I frightened DD and SIL when they were staying with me when DH died. They thought I was being attacked as the screams were blood curdling.

Harrigran,
I scared a ward of patients in hospital with my nightly goings-on!
Luckily, I had warned them beforehand that I sometimes sleeptalk and stuff. And that night, boy did I ever! I was dreaming I was in a remote part, near where I used to go to school, taking my children somewhere, anywhere, so that their dad couldn't kidnap them. Wow, at the time HE was the one looking after them while I was stuck in hospital so that dream - nightmare - was so random, but apparently I was sitting up, lying down, arms flailing, calling out for help, crying, demanding people stay back and not come bear my children etc!
I was tired as anything the next day, and the other patients were so relieved to see my DC come in with their daddy, happy as Larrys!

PHILLIPS,
Did you forget you posted about this already? 😀

I don’t know what I’m doing 😄😄

I have been a light sleeper since the menopause. I recently found a magnesium supplement has improved my sleep a lot. I take Magnesium L-Threonate 2000 mg per serving. I take two capsules about 90 minutes before going to bed, the advised dose is two in the morning and two in the evening but I find the two capsules in the evening have helped me with sleep.

My husband has Parkinsons and he was very like this in bed - kicking a football, catching a cricket ball etc. He's not so bad now as far as I know (he's gone into a care home) but yes, he did fall out of bed several times and also hit his hand on the bedside table.

DH still operates in his sleep. Knives all locked up.

My DH gets up from bed playing imaginary football, pushed me out of bed telling me the ceiling was flooding the bed, more or less every night he gets up out of bed shouting and walking around arms flailing all over the place and starts arguing with me and shouting. I hate it when he does it as it totally unnerves me. He started this 3 years ago and finally last year I couldn’t stand it any longer because I was so tired night after night of being woke up by him that I went to the Doctor to ask for something to help me to sleep. The Doctor was very good and told me she couldn’t give me anything as it was his problem, rightly so. She referred him to the mental health team and they did an MRI & CT scan and it turns out he’s got Vascular Dementia. We were both shocked as it didn’t occur to us this was the reason, he often doesn’t remember the next day he’s got up and walked around, kicking imaginary balls or painting imaginary walls etc but the mental health Consultant prescribed him Melatonin, they’ve been brilliant for him, they have certainly helped during the night but he’s getting worse and started doing this during the evening now, falling asleep whilst watching TV and suddenly jumping up out of the armchair shouting and imagining spiders or people, getting very angry if I tell him he’s dreaming and to sit back down.
He’s fallen out of bed 3 times and hurt himself too. Maybe get your husband to go to the Doctors to get checked by the and ask for Melatonin to be prescribed to see if it helps.

Thanks for your wisdom. I was thinking perhaps something underlying was going on. Did your DH display anything suspicious during the day? Memory lapses, losing things etc. ? My DH seems normal whilst awake.

Reading all of this gave me the best laugh I’ve had in years, especially as i used to sleep walk and talk. I certainly didnt dive into a jug and basin.
Thanks very much contributors

Ali08

Harrigran,
I scared a ward of patients in hospital with my nightly goings-on!
Luckily, I had warned them beforehand that I sometimes sleeptalk and stuff. And that night, boy did I ever! I was dreaming I was in a remote part, near where I used to go to school, taking my children somewhere, anywhere, so that their dad couldn't kidnap them. Wow, at the time HE was the one looking after them while I was stuck in hospital so that dream - nightmare - was so random, but apparently I was sitting up, lying down, arms flailing, calling out for help, crying, demanding people stay back and not come bear my children etc!
I was tired as anything the next day, and the other patients were so relieved to see my DC come in with their daddy, happy as Larrys!

More than anything, Ali08, I bet the other patients were glad when you were discharged. (no offence)

I moved into the spare because of my dh sleeping habits waking me up. There is still no rest because when he gets up to use the bathroom he disturbs my sleep. It drives me mad I am more considerate I try to be quiet so I don’t disturb him. In the day time he happily nods off constantly to make up for the sleep he has lost!