Family Weddings

Where does your son stand?

What does your son have to say about the way his future wife is behaving?

They could have discussed it with you when they were thinking about marrying abroad.

It’s unfair to take it out on you if you can’t afford to go away with them.

Oh my goodness!! You must be devastated. The sad reality is that if people marry abroad it is inevitable that many people will not be able to afford to go. IMO your future daughter in law is behaving very badly indeed. Of course they are entitled to marry abroad but should be aware that some people can not afford to go. You are the grooms mother but that does not mean you have sufficient funds to enable you to be there. I do hope your future DIL will come to accept the situation and you are able to rebuild your relationship.

Or maybe the grooms father !?

My DS was asked to be best man at a wedding in Singapore on Christmas Eve.
He was expected to pay his own fare too. He said no but was probably torn but for you, how inconsiderate of them!
What a shame . I am sorry for you

I would hope your son is still visiting you....I guess that will have to be enough for now and then hopefully it will blow over

She sounds in full Bridezilla mode. Maybe when more people refuse because of the expense or time off work she will realise how selfish she is being.

I am all for a couple marrying abroad if that is what they want but they cannot expect all the invitees to attend.

Well this isn't a very good start is it Kirk your future d.i.l. rounding on you because you can't afford to go abroad to the wedding.

You need to talk to your son about this as this IMO is a huge red flag as to how things may go in the future. You say she's banned you from visiting, do they live together and has she banned you from visiting their home? If so, it's your son's home too so you need to know his views on this.

Her treatment of you is completely unacceptable and needs to be sorted.

How did you break the news and what did your son say?