Me again needing yet another dose of courage

MissA a problem shared is a problem halved, but a problem shelved will keep you awake at night!

Glad you've done the deed and can now put it behind you.

Thank you, Urmston.
I barely slept a wink last night because I think my mind was wavering about the job situation.

Hi MissA I’ve just got in from book club.
Well done you!
And great GN support ?
When you know a fit isn’t right, stop struggling.
Sleep well now!

I'm still all a-tremble.
What a wimp!!
Logic tells me they'll just replace me but I hate this kind of thing.

Oh dear.
I thought you meant you'd written it

Well done.

Keep up, woman.
It's sent.
I suppose a kind of bonus is that I'm going to a funeral tomorrow, so I can turn my phone off.
(Cowardy.Custard.icon)

Well, you could type it out now, and there are some good suggestions above, keeping your options open.
You could then save it in drafts and we will nag you to send it in the morning. You could have more inspiration overnight.

Alternatively, you could worry more overnight so send it now.

I'm worse than you for dithering
To think I used to be so organised at work.

You really are a lovely lot, you know.
I don't know how I would have got through the last couple of years without some kindness, and I've certainly been shown plenty on here.
Thanks again all. X

I read all your posts MissAdventure, I remember when you were doing all that traveling to work , you were exhausted. You do not need more stress x sleep well x

Thank you Mrs bossyboots.
I do mean that in the nicest possible way, Annie.
Exactly what I needed, and its done now.
I wouldn't have done it without a gentle push, and would have made things worse for myself.

Yep now, once done you will stop hyperventilating, if you leave it until tomorrow you will be awake most of the night agonising if you should even though you want to, going over and over what to say and continue to hyperventilate ,and it’s not good for your boots . Yes get it done now for the sake of your tummy, lungs and boots , then forget it . X

You know me so well, Annie!
Do I really have to do it now?
I'm hyperventilating I think.

When you applied for the job you didn’t know your employer was going offer you nicer shifts so this was unforeseen ?, do it now x

Well, unforeseen circumstances is not even a fib, so that's good.
I didn't know the agency were going to offer me some more shifts.

Thank you all; sometimes it helps to know you have people behind you, as it were.
I really do appreciate it - I really struggle with things like this.

I would opt for’ with regret’ ‘unforeseen circumstances’ , ‘your appreciation’ , and ‘an apology’ by email

What ever you choose , do it tonight or you will be troubled through the night.

Yes but be diplomatic MissA the unforseen circumstances is a good way out and you appreciate their offer etc.
It will be fine, don't worry.

I suspect, if it's term time only, they would calculate the wages on a monthly or four weekly basis. My friend is a TA and she was paid monthly.

In your position, I would send them a truthful email.

MissA I get a"nervous" tummy whenever I have a dilemma, my family think it's hysterical "Mothers in the lavatory again"!!! So I totally get how you feel. You know what's correct for you, and we are all behind you x

Thank you.
I'm sure it will be fine. (Quaking in my boots!)

?Best wishe’s, hope all goes well .

Oh yes, I will be truthful.
Its mostly because it all seems so disorganised; its term time only, which I had thought was ideal, but nobody seems to know how the wages work out, whether or not they pay 'standby' when its school holidays, and how many hours I might work.
I don't do well with things being that unsettled.
Plus the pay is poo!
(I won't be THAT honest in my email)

Option one, tell them the truth
Option two. tell them due to unforeseen circumstances you will be unable to take the job.
I think telling the truth & offering apologies would be best. Good luck

MissA if it's by email be truthful, they will appreciate your honesty. Which might keep the door open if need be in the future.