how should I wear a new scarf?

Have a look on You tube there are loads of demos, much easier to get the hang of it when there is a demonstration. Nothing wrong with your style! I was in JL with DD, when I mentioned that I liked Mint Velvet. She scanned the displays and said 'you would, they're your colours'. Needless to say they were black, grey and navy in the main. Just like my wardrobe. Enjoy your gift!!

Wow, serious scarf envy!
You dont say if it is square or rectangular.
If square, try a triangle loosely tied at the back to fill in the neckof a coat or jacket.
Or if rectangular loop once round your neck and let the ends hang down
There is also the Mary Berry where you fold it once, loop (folded) round the neck and pass the “open” ends trough the loop in different directions.
Probably garrotted yourself by now!
I’ll try to find the YouTube vid for you.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaKcwnoGCak

stansgran - are you looking for hints as to how to tie your new scarf - or ideas for clothes (a funnel necked top?) with which to wear it?

Well both. The scarf is very slippy and I need a coat to set it off or complement it. I didn't think of you tube. It's a square scarf - a carré the French call it. I think it may become an heirloom!

I need a coat to set it off - my kind of shopper, Stansgran

My son gave me a similar Hermes scarf years ago. I don’t think I’ve worn it more than once, though I still have it. It is, as you say, very ‘slippy’.

Stansgran, it sounds lovely.
If you are looking for ideas, try Pinterest.
Search: How to wear a scarf There are lots of ideas.

I need a coat to set it off made me laugh as well.

I've said on other threads that I am not a scarf fan and just don't 'get' the amount of scarfage some people are prepared to put up with around their necks.

However...….I do like the way Joanna Lumley wears a scarf simply tied and usually with a black top so that's about the limit of my scarf skills.

I enjoyed watching your your tube Maw. But what an elegant lady! She would of looked good in anything!

I think the colours you describe would go well with your camel coat, but don't let that stop you buying something new!

I know your existing coat is grey stansgran but perhaps it just needs updating?
I like this from M&S www.marksandspencer.com/petite-textured-single-breasted-coat/p/p60200064?image=SD_01_T49_1409P_T0_X_EC_90&color=GREY&prevPage=plp

Lucky lady, what a lovely present.
Please don’t be tempted to pin it in any way as it will spoil the silk fabric.
A scarf ring ( rather old fashioned) to thread it through, will keep it from slipping. You will probably get one very cheaply on eBay.

The video was nicely done but she drove me mad talking about "diameter" and she couldn't tie a reef knot. I was expecting something more original, too. I think Inhave worn scarves all those ways.

As for Stansgran' question. If the scarf is so colourful you can surely only wear it with a neutral coloured coat. Pin it down as they can easily blow away. (I sucked one off my neck with the vacuum cleaner once!

Right, get yourself along to a department store ( Debenhams) is good and see a personal shopper.
I have also used John Lewis and the person looked about 12 but turned out to be brilliant at her job.

Take the scarf as your starting point.

I agree with Oldbatty. You might be surprised- there are a lot of beautiful coats in bright colours that might pick up one of the colours in your scarf. Wear with pride and happiness.

The 12 year old made me stand in front of a full length mirror and we discovered my shoulders are small and my derriere is not small. Armed with this information and a quick glance at my pallid complexion, she returned with clothes that fitted and looked good!