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Cremation after being completely sure I'm deed of course!

I think the funeral arrangements are for the benefit of those left behind. Having organised DH's funeral with our 3 daughters, it brought us together, gave us, after the shock of his sudden death, time to talk and grieve and we all chose the music, flowers, coffin etc. between us. We included music, poems and readings which he would have enjoyed but really it was about us honouring and remembering him in our way. When it comes to my turn, I have a list as long as my arm of my favourite music which the girls can pick and choose from, adding their own if they like, and I have a couple of my favourite poems. I would like it to be simple, to the point and I want my ashes mixed with his and scattered in a place of their choice - hopefully by the beach where we lived for most of our married life - but their choice. I have some of DHs ashes in a pot under a rose bush which is moving with me to my new home and I have left more under a tree in our old garden which is where we were so happy. The rest are in our wine store (which he would chuckle about) waiting for mine to join him in the fullness of time - but not yet please

I'm another in the "as simple as possible" camp. As yet, I haven't quite decided whether a funeral should be for the deceased or the mourners. I feel uneasy sometimes when people have really strong views about what they want, and I can imagine the assembled congregation cringeing with embarrassment. I suppose the upshot is, as in life, compromise! And not too soon... ?

Cremation. Basic as possible..think the costs are a rip off!

I want my family to spend as little as possible on getting rid of the bits I don't need any more. I hope they can arrange a woodland burial, because I would love to become a part of the natural world again; worms, birds, beetles and plants sound like a great way to go. I certainly don't want to pollute the planet by being burned.

I arranged simple but enjoyable — yes, really! — funerals at the crematorium for my OH and mother and father, very different, but then, they were very different people and I knew what they wanted. I was shocked by the cost, though.

I can't think that many people will care about my disappearance to the next stage of the adventure so the less fuss the better. They will do what they feel is best for them, I hope. I shall be past caring!

Posh coffin, wearing my own clothes and jewellery, maybe someone could paint my nails for me! Very short simple ceremony in the church where I was both christened and married followed by burial in the same cemetery as my mum and dad. Absolutely NO party afterwards, no gathering at all. Only thing I haven't decided is the grave marker, want a stone, but not the usual names and dates thing. Hopefully have a few years to find the perfect marker! OH knows my wishes, but family don't want to talk about these things, even though it's important to me and not upsetting to discuss.

I hope the Co-Op will not mind me commenting, that from experience, it is not wise to leave it up to the children/ spouse because they might disagree on what to do and it can cause a rift in the family at what is for them already a sad and emotional time.

Also be aware that most cardboard coffins are dearer than the standard laminated MDF.

I've already contributed to this thread, but would just like to add that I do hope that the sponsors take note of the wishes of the majority of posters here...for a simple, basic service that doesn't cost the earth.
Thanks too to fellow Gransnetters. Given that I'm currently trying to be clear for my nearest and dearest about what arrangements we'd all be happy with, I've picked up some good ideas here. Thanks from us all

I trust my loved ones to choose. I am really not too fussed. They will be financially provided for to arrange my funeral as they wish.

I seem to be repeating a lot of the comments of above but I want basic, cheap and no thrills. About 10 years ago ( when I was 40 ) I wrote some basic details down, ( favourite church, favourite hyms etc ) but we also discuss things like this as a family from time to time ( not sure why ), and most of us ( siblings children etc ) feel the same. A party afterwards can be theraputic for everyone but no point in wasting money on extras.

I want no fuss no funeral. I'd like my body to be dedicated to science.

Definitely a Humanist ceremony for me and cremation. I’d like a wicker coffin (if it’s not too expensive). Music should be loud and completely inappropriate and all the mourners clothes should be bright and colourful. All done as cheaply as possible.

I'd love to be buried in a cardboard coffin somewhere pretty

I haven't really thought about whatI want. It's not that I haven't considered death, as I have a will, I just don't know what I would like. However, I'd rather my life was celebrated rather than mourn my death.

I would like a non-religious service at the crematorium that is mostly music, as that is the way I express myself, and anyone who knows me will understand the sentiment.
I would like a black coffin, whatever is cheapest, as at the moment MDF is cheaper than cardboard.
I would like my ashes to be combined with those of my pets and sent up in fireworks, with a good party going on below!

I'd like to be cremated, as it's the only time in my life I will ever have a tan! Although I don't want my funeral to be too depressing, I'd like people to be sad I'm gone.

I would have a black coffin with very brightly coloured flowers. I would have Evanescence songs played throughout the ceremony.

My husband died and I paid to go in with him as long as that happens I do not care I have paid for a cheep basic package and told my kids not to be talked into anything more expensive like the funeral parlour tried to do when my husband died even though he had paid up front.

Cheap as possible, too much money is involved. I am to be cremated, no flowers, just remember the good times as they cost you nothing!

no funeral or service for me just cremation,would like my name added to my mums headstone if it is possible and a few of my ashes scattered there,also there is a lot of this world I have never seen so would like my sons to scatter a few of my ashes whenever they go abroad

Something nice and simple and for everybody to celebrate life. No moping around!

As cheap and cheerful as possible I don't want any money wasted on me when I'm gone, plain and simple like me .

I would like to go direct to be cremated without any service, or friends, or family to view as I prefer that they should simply remember me as I was. If a more eco friendly method becomes available I would opt for that. Unfortunately funerals have become a big money making (expensive) business.

To be buried within the sound of the Settle and Carlisle Railway

I would sooner be cremated than buried, but other than that I don't mind.