Do you know what?

Lucca, yes me too. As soon as I see a daft question or comment with an emoji, I'm in! It's just a pity that some posters don't get it, and take umbridge at what is generally funny banter.

And me! ?

However, I have been taking a step back recently as like others, I'm not sure if some posters are genuine.? lf you voice any concerns, you are accused of bullying.

Err, umbrage. Fat fingers.

I'm the same Luckygirl. I leave threads as soon as any spats come into it. I also never join in contentious threads. That's not what I joined for.

I loved the cold tea malarkey. ☕ I don't see that you can ever know for sure if a poster is genuine, you can only go with what is in front of you.

I’ve been on GN for a few years now and it does seem more contentious of late. I recently had a post deleted for what seemed to be no real reason - I suspect someone didn’t like my comment and reported me.

Like others, I now try not to engage, I just roll my eyes instead.

FannyCornforth the Search function doesn’t work for me either. What you can do is go to Google, put in the term your searching for and also put Gransnet and you should get some results.

Discogran. “ umbridge”. Is that where over sensitive archers live ?

I told a poster it was a disgrace to post ‘ shut the @&#* up ‘ to someone and I got my knuckles rapped from GNHQ for it !!!! It does feel very as if the stress of life is seeping into everything even GN

Lucca, very good, I see what you did there!! Do you know, I have never listened to the Archers. The theme music alone is enough to put me off.

But the thing that's always puzzled me is why people even respond to the nasty posters. Surely the best approach is not to reply at all, then their thread would go nowhere?

YellowMellow I think the problem is when a thread is started by someone which is non-controversial and perhaps a poster is asking for advice, but other posters jump in with rather strong views on how the OP should have worded their post and how they were going wrong. Then continue to dominate the thread, perhaps even accusing the OP of all kinds of politically incorrect transgressions!!

However, is some threads are upsetting you, you have the total freedom to avoid them

Yes, true, but if someone started the thread asking for advice that wouldn't work.
Perhaps best to avoid the posts which are uncalled for.

ie Sit on the fence.

One very kind person has pm'ed me to explain the background to this- and I am very grateful

As said, insidious, nameless attacks as in this thread are very unpleasant and cliquey- as the majority has no idea what the context is. HQ should nip it in the bud I'd say.

I think we're speaking generally biba

I'm quite new to GN, so this is an interesting read for me. If I'm on the Politics thread or something similar, I'm happy to get into a good argument. I've only reported one post and that was for somebody spreading conspiracy theories - and I told her I was doing it. If I'm on the TV thread or the Arts & Crafts thread, I stick to chatting.

I don't feel bullied generally as I think feeling bullied can be a state of mind. I'm not saying that to play it down, but some people may be more sensitive than others. (That's interesting - I felt the need to qualify that in case anyone thought I was being disrespectful.)

I've seen some behaviour on GN that has really taken me aback, even today. Posters asking sincere questions or looking for advice and then being belittled or scorned.

If anybody wants a thread with no nastiness and gentle humour, look at the one started by Lara GNHQ about the bell ringing or otherwise to inform us we have a PM. It was only last week and it was a change from pink dresses.

DiscoGran Quite by chance caught the end of The Archers omnibus on Sunday, seconds before the signature tune. The tune is the same, but the arrangement has changed. Not sure how long ago this happened........I didn’t like it!

FannyCornforth

The search function doesn't work for me at all.
It always says 'no search results'

Try this tip. Let's say you wanted to see if there had been a thread about dish cloths. Type dish cloths followed by Gransnet into the Google box. Google has a very long memory.

SueDonim Wed 23-Sep-20 14:45:26
FannyCornforth the Search function doesn’t work for me either. What you can do is go to Google, put in the term your searching for and also put Gransnet and you should get some results.
Sorry Sue, I missed your Google paragraph. But at least Fanny now has it in duplicate.

Hear hear Mellow yellow and Spangler. I seem to miss all the ‘controversial ‘messages. If someone is being nasty, why give them the satisfaction of replying. Just move on. It certainly wouldn’t worry me. Actors need an audience - dont give them one.

No problem, Spangler! Great minds and all that.

biba hopefully the very kind person who pm'd you gave accurate information, rather than just their take on it?a

One very kind person has pm'ed me to explain the background to this- and I am very grateful

Presumably a non-partisan kind person, biba!

yes, 100%.

I don’t care when there’s spats about things that can cause spats politics, religion, royal family Brexit etc etc what gets my goat is posters that look for attention or make stuff up to get sympathy or shock We had a few a few months back that really emotionally upset people and it’s all very well saying ignore them but some very good people get sucked in to try to help They re the threads that get up my nose

I agree, BlueBelle