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Wheniwasyourage Thu 08-Oct-26 09:45:51

After posting on a thread, I got a cheerful-sounding PM from someone commenting favourably on what I had said and asking some fairly reasonable questions. We had a few messages backwards and forwards, but it occurred to me that all the questions were based on bouncing back what I had said, and that the poster didn't come up with any original ideas. Also, there was no first name at the end of the messages, which I (perhaps wrongly) regarded as etiquette for PMs.

Anyway, I was pretty sure that it was a bot, and I know that I am not the only person to have had PMs from that "person". Apparently the name is now classed as a "former user", so perhaps someone has already reported it.

We all need to think about PMs from unfamiliar names - are they looking for information or am I paranoid?...

ixion Fri 16-Oct-26 09:20:52

Yup, me too this morning- my first!
Deleted pdq, without reading.

Squiffy Fri 16-Oct-26 09:18:22

Well, this is what I received today! CSmiles is nothing if not persistent! So easy to be taken in - I haven’t been!

Hello Squiffy, I came across your comments in the Wordlinkle thread and your remark about listening to The Chase while doing the puzzle made me smile. It sounds like you enjoy keeping your mind busy, even if a little distraction sometimes gets in the way. Do you enjoy other quiz shows and word games too, or is Wordlinkle your main daily challenge?

Esmay Sun 11-Oct-26 19:38:19

Wheniwasyourage
Who knows ?
I was getting some strange messages on Pinterest recently .
I think that they were guys after dates and perhaps wanting money .
This "person" certainly puts a lot of effort into his posts .
I wondered about a bot.
It's creepy.

Wheniwasyourage Sun 11-Oct-26 17:39:22

Esmay, it seems that we are not dealing with a person who has a foot fetish, but a bot which is presumably trying to glean information from us. Not sad in any way, just annoying, and it makes me wonder who is behind it.

Esmay Sun 11-Oct-26 13:42:30

In a way -it's sad because the poster isn't rude ,nasty or unpleasant.
At first ,I found his first post to me odd.
I must admit I did wonder why someone would be so interested in my going barefoot.
Then after the missing my dog ones came I wondered if it were not an elderly lady .

It's a ahane that an innocent post about shoes has generated a response from some one with a fetish .
But one in seven men have a foot fetish apparently.

pably15 Fri 09-Oct-26 19:05:23

has anyone had a message from FREED or FREDE...he or she used both names, it was a pm,and I never get these I didn't reply just blocked....I have never seen that name on gransnet before

nanna8 Thu 08-Oct-26 22:51:48

I was thinking how good it is that we are able to share this information - a real help. Love y’all as they say here !

Fallingstar Thu 08-Oct-26 22:15:44

M0nica

I received one fromChestersmiles as well.

This was the text:
Hi Monica, I came across your post and wanted to reach out with a quiet hello. I’m very sorry for your loss. I know there are no perfect words for a time like this, but I hope you’re surrounded by people who care about you and give you the space to take each day as it comes. I just wanted you to know that someone noticed and wished you a little strength today.

After the wonderful response after I posted my sad post. To now be assailed by an opportunist like this who thinks that hopefully grief has addled my senses and I might well be a soft touch for a scam, sickens me.

So sorry. This kind of thing sickens me too and infuriates me.
What a piece of work.

Usedtobeblonde Thu 08-Oct-26 22:13:07

It was to my reply to M0nica’s original very sad news that Chestersmiles responded to me.
I posted that I knew what she was experiencing which outed me as a widow.
I feel outraged that scammers pick out people when they are vulnerable and play on it.

Grannybags Thu 08-Oct-26 22:05:21

Gosh that’s awful M0nica

I’ve had one from him too quoting from one of my posts. Very creepy

M0nica Thu 08-Oct-26 21:59:01

I received one fromChestersmiles as well.

This was the text:
Hi Monica, I came across your post and wanted to reach out with a quiet hello. I’m very sorry for your loss. I know there are no perfect words for a time like this, but I hope you’re surrounded by people who care about you and give you the space to take each day as it comes. I just wanted you to know that someone noticed and wished you a little strength today.

After the wonderful response after I posted my sad post. To now be assailed by an opportunist like this who thinks that hopefully grief has addled my senses and I might well be a soft touch for a scam, sickens me.

NotAGran55 Thu 08-Oct-26 21:55:16

Chestersmiles was impressed with my vocabulary! That’s a first I must say.

Retread Thu 08-Oct-26 21:49:07

I do think that scammers look for ‘hooks’ - a widowed cousin of mine, an educated, intelligent woman was totally taken in by someone she met online who liked art and classical music, shared her tastes. She lived in the US, he allegedly lived in the UK. I offered to meet him in person to suss him out. She offered that, he disappeared.

Retread Thu 08-Oct-26 21:44:59

hollysteers

Chester PMd me and complimented me on my sense of humour 😁
Reported and blocked.

Last night I watched Hey Beautiful on BBCIplayer. The scale of scamming worldwide is astounding and it’s hard to believe people part with such huge amounts of money.

I watched that too, and was equally astounded.

Retread Thu 08-Oct-26 21:44:10

Desdemona

Wheniwasyourage

Oreo, I don't understand why I got messages from a shortbread fetishist from San Francisco, but not from a Nigerian Prince who wants to give me money. It's not fair!

I'm sorry you've been dumped though. You must be very disappointed. grin

I would probably get along quite well with a shortbread fetishist.

😂😂😂

fluttERBY123 Thu 08-Oct-26 21:20:05

Chestersmiles is such a lovely name. I'm sorry he has completely ignored me.

hollysteers Thu 08-Oct-26 21:16:41

Chester PMd me and complimented me on my sense of humour 😁
Reported and blocked.

Last night I watched Hey Beautiful on BBCIplayer. The scale of scamming worldwide is astounding and it’s hard to believe people part with such huge amounts of money.

Desdemona Thu 08-Oct-26 19:39:04

Wheniwasyourage

*Oreo*, I don't understand why I got messages from a shortbread fetishist from San Francisco, but not from a Nigerian Prince who wants to give me money. It's not fair!

I'm sorry you've been dumped though. You must be very disappointed. grin

I would probably get along quite well with a shortbread fetishist.

Esmay Thu 08-Oct-26 18:35:16

Chestersmiles mentioned having a little dog and it being recently deceased .
He seemed to think that I paint portraits of animals .
He said that it was proving difficult to send me a photo of his pet.
I said never mind and wondered if he'd ask me to send an email address /phone number .
I'm always on red alert .

MayBee70 Thu 08-Oct-26 18:02:18

They're obviously reading lots of comments and personalising the messages. Creepy!

Fallingstar Thu 08-Oct-26 17:52:12

Chestersmiles PM’d me and was very flattering, I was quite happy at first because I don’t get PM’d very often, but then he/she asked what my DDs like to read in the bath which was creepy so I didn’t reply.

crazyH Thu 08-Oct-26 17:38:17

shysal - now that’s a compliment you can’t discard 😂

shysal Thu 08-Oct-26 17:32:00

I also had the San Francisco one. I just blocked but didn't report He/she commented on my 'all fours' method of lowering myself into the bath.

crazyH Thu 08-Oct-26 17:20:24

The ‘mum, I’ve lost my purse and I’ve had to change my mobile number, please send money ‘ is back in circulation. I had one today 😫

GrannyGravy13 Thu 08-Oct-26 17:07:17

I also had a message from ChesterSmiles, no mention of feet, just what made me like a certain tv programme.

Being one of the most suspicious people I know, I deleted and blocked.