Unattended cremation thoughts, please.

I think people should be totally at liberty to pick a “death ceremony” which reflects them, their life and their beliefs.

This vicar doesn’t sound like he has a very christian attitude!

I am seriously thinking of having a pure cremation. Years ago, I remember one of my ds.i.l. telling me, knowing I was a Catholic, ‘H , I hope you’re not going to have one of those long ceremonies in the Church.’ That got me thinking, and more so now . I was told one of the local Funeral directors, is offering this, so I might start shopping around, rather than going through well-known and we’ll-advertised FD.

If you don't go to church or plan to be buried in their graveyard, no need have a church funeral with a vicar.

A vicar is not the only alternative to having a 'Pure' type cremation. There are humanist ministers whose calling is to preside at all key life ceremonies: marriages, funerals for someone. I have been to quite a number of funerals with a humanist celebrant. The undertaker will be able to recommend some one.

I believe strongly we should leave our descendants to organise the funeral they want, rather than impose on them one we would like. I mean you will be dead so will know nothing about it and even if they tell you they will do everything you want. You will have no way of knowing they actually do so.

Just put the money in a special account or somewhere, so they can access it on you demise and then decide whether to give you decent funeral or put you out for recycling while the family all go on a luxury cruise.

I have a Pure Cremation plan in place. I am a non-believer so this is my choice. My daughters are happy with the arrangement and will celebrate my life as they wish. I would rather the money a proper funeral would cost went to them.
The company seems well established so unlikely to let us down.

I am close to someone whose relative just had a pure cremation. He found the whole thing really unsettling and didnt know what to do on the day so to speak.
I think i agree with Monica.

I don’t want a funeral or ceremony of any sort. There’s no reason for it unless you’re religious. My remaining family and friends can go out to a good lunch, if they want a way to mark my death.