If you are dealing with narcissism, let’s all help each other.

My DS has been married for 11 years to a narcissist. She has abused him most of that time which we did not know about. She told me all sorts of lies about him which at the time I believed.
He has finally come to us to tell us he is filing for divorce very much against her wishes. He felt a failure until he spoke to a psychiatrist friend who told him that judging from her behaviour his wife is a total narcissist.
We are getting our son back but meanwhile she is doing all she can to slow the process down.

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NPD is a clinical diagnosis. I wonder how many people have actually received said diagnosis from an actual psychiatrist since it became so internet-trendy to label everyone a narcissist who we have problems with. Not to downplay anyone’s issues but it does make me wonder.

The big problem here is that a narc would never admit to any failings so is highly unlikely to be diagnosed.

I do however agree it’s become a popular label.

NPD is a clinical diagnosis. I wonder how many people have actually received said diagnosis from an actual psychiatrist since it became so internet-trendy to label everyone a narcissist who we have problems with. Not to downplay anyone’s issues but it does make me wonder.

Not in my family but with a friend who felt she had every right to integrate herself into every aspect of my life. Luckily I saw through her and was able to distance myself and finally let her go. Not an easy thing to do though if it is a family member.

Their lies are so clever, my Mother told everyone I was a compulsive liar, therefore nobody in the family would believe me!

It’s interesting how they all use the same methods, it’s almost as though they all had a chip inserted at birth.

Narcissistic people are very important people in their eyes they are never at fault and very good liars, often very charming to those around them work colleagues and friends. I believe even believing their own lies. Don’t feed their ego grey rock approach as much as possible is our strategy. There is no reasoning with a narcissist so it’s about protecting yourself. Give no reaction communication only when necessary. A narcissist is only nice when they want something. If you cross them and don’t go along with with what they want you are punished and experience vile behaviour.
I constantly live in fear what he will do to my daughter next and what my grandchildren will suffer at his hands. Control is important to them. It is something you live with and over time learn to manage. Stay strong

Don’t justify, argue deny explain. Communication only when necessary and use the Grey Rock Technique.

Thank you Cossy.

I agree. I’ve never been so unfortunate to have to deal with this, but I do understand how utterly awful it must be to have done so ir worse be dealing with it now.

Bravo for wanting to be a positive support to others