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Sister owing money to whole family

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Notjustaprettyface Sat 14-Feb-26 19:32:07

Last year I lent my sister £10000
She was threatening to commit suicide if I didn’t lend her the money
Unbeknown to me she had already borrowed money from my other sister and my son
She said at the time that she would start paying back in September (2025) but September came and went and nothing happened
I have asked her a few times about paying me back but she just says she can’t afford it
My son keeps asking me when she is going to pay him back as he doesn’t like to approach her directly
All this is upsetting me and I do wonder whether she intends to pay us back at all
She is waiting for some inheritance from her in-laws but we have no way of checking when this will happen
If I must take the hit and lose the money then I suppose I will have to but what would it do to our relationship ?
I couldn’t trust her anymore and I wouldn’t respect someone who had no intention of paying the money back and instead , looked on it as a gift
I don’t know what to do ; I worry that if I stop contact with her I will certainly never see my money back
So what does one do in a situation like this ?

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Allsorts Fri 20-Feb-26 20:06:14

In my experience, you don't get money back what you have loaned, you won’t feel the same about her anymore.

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Notjustaprettyface Fri 20-Feb-26 20:21:57

Thank you allsorts
No you are right , the relationship will never be the same again and I don’t even know whether I will want a relationship at all which will be painful but in the long run, it’s like a medicine you need to take to make you better
It may taste awful but it’s for the best

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