Revenge on an ex

Revenge is not to be celebrated in my opinion, especially when a relationship is over.

It tells me far more about the person seeking revenge than the person who may or not be on the receiving end.

However, years ago I bumped into an ex in a nightclub- yes it was that long ago! We had a dance and he suggested we go back to his place.
Whilst outside waiting for a taxi some friends hailed one that stopped right in front of us- I got in on the spur of the moment and left him on the pavement looking pretty miffed. I suppose it was a kind of revenge, but I cried all the way back in the taxi with my friends!

eazybee

The best revenge is not caring anymore.
You are truly free.

Agreed. I know we can't help how we feel, but I do think it's best to move on where possible.

Another proverb is 'He who seeks revenge should dig two graves', and I think that is true.

I took his treasured Capri 2.8i, one of the last made, and part ex’d it for a Ford Fiesta, a model he hated.

The best revenge is not caring anymore.
You are truly free.

Not on an ex, but a tradesperson who has left my new bathroom needing many fixes, and then ignored all my calls and messages. He took his money, then ran, basically.

I was going to take him to the small claims court but then changed my mind, knowing it would cause me more stress than it would him.

There is a local community Facebook page and now, every time I see somebody asking for recommendations for a plumber/bathroom fitter, I private message them asking them to avoid this particular person like the plague, and telling them why.

It's slow, but subtle, and I'm getting a lot of pleasure from it. One, I feel like I'm paying him back, two because I'm helping to prevent somebody else wasting their money. And I don't care how that makes me look.

Nope I was just pleased to be free. He did some things to get revenge on me for leaving eg the oil was drained out of the engine of my car, he insisted every scrap of jewellery that he'd bought me was valued and included in the settlement etc but the more obnoxious he was, the better I felt about leaving him. I have never regretted my decision even though I had a few tough years getting back on my feet. tbh I don't believe in revenge (bad karma), anyway I would get absolutely no satisfaction from hurting someone.

Agreed.

Dependng on the psychology of the betrayer, they may enjoy the attention of any act of revenge. As a self-aware alpha narcissist once said, You could bake me a cake or leave a dog turd on my doorstep and set fire to it. It’s all the same to me. Either way, I know I still have your attention.

Hold you head high, ignore him or her and get on with your life.

Kandinsky Sun 05-Oct-25 11:01:41:
I think totally ignoring ex’s and moving on happily with your life is the best revenge. ( if you’re into revenge of course )

THIS. Best to focus on having your best life moving forward. Bitterness and backwards focus on ex's detracts from that end....

mumski
Powered chilli in all his y fronts. (A slow burn! Doesn't come into effect until it all gets a bit sweaty)

Oh how I wish I’d done that! However, my ex did badly out of the divorce so I suppose that was revenge in itself.
I have been married to my DH for over 40 years now and I have a lovely life with a beautiful DD and DGD so I feel ex did me the best favour he could ever have done.

Just yesterday my son asked me if have any regrets - I said I used to , but not now. I was bitter that my axe cheated on me, in the most insensitive manner - getting all dressed up, packing his case and telling me he was going away for a weekend with her. All those memories hurt, but I didn’t tell my son.
I don’t regret divorcing him - we were such different people with different priorities.
And no, I have not done anything to get back at him.

I certainly dreamed of doing all sorts of things, mainly to his other women.

Of course his other women must share some of the blame as it takes two to tango but I bet he made the first move and it is also likely that he was not honest about already having a partner.

Why some women feel more bitter towards the other woman than their philandering partner always puzzles me. Jealousy is a curious thing.

The best revenge is to live well.

Got the keys to his new 'love nest' from one of my daughters.

Powered chilli in all his y fronts. (A slow burn! Doesn't come into effect until it all gets a bit sweaty)
Poured all their expensive liqueurs down the sink and filled the bottles with washing up liquid, floor cleaner etc .

Whooped his ass in court over the divorce settlement. He thought I would role over and just agree to everything he wanted.

Can't remember what else I did as it was 25 years ago. But the feeling of satisfaction still remines.

Recently, a feeling of satisfaction as one daughter refuses to have anything to do with him, as he continued his coercive and controlling behaviour. Police involved.

Ive never done anything to get back at an ex since I always got on very well with mine. Sadly he died not long ago but her did "remember" me in his will. Entirely unexpected.

Ive paid someone to put a voodoo spell on bad neighbours and it worked. It was something called a "spell of banishment" with the objective being not to hurt the person physically but simply to remove them from your life. I wont go into details although there is no law in this country against casting a spell on someone.

It seems to me that you have kept your dignity and risen above the pathetic actions of your ex and his ‘bit on the side’.
Glad to see you realise you are worth more than they are.
Have I done anything to get back at an ex who treated me badly? Well, yes. I drove to his house at 2am soon after finding out his deceit, parked around the corner so he stood no chance of seeing my car, then I walked to his house and let all his tyres down! Not dignified, but oh, so, satisfying! What he had done to me was cruel, so he deserved it. He must have known it was me, but couldn’t prove it.
Good luck for the future 💐

I think totally ignoring ex’s and moving on happily with your life is the best revenge. ( if you’re into revenge of course )