Our young GC sing a song (no idea where they learnt it) "Let it go" runs on and on, and ends "The cold never bothered me anyway"
Norah it's from the Disney film "Frozen."
Hershey maybe your children's relationship with their cousin as adults would give you a clue as to why they weren't invited?
You say, "My kids were so close to my nephew and his family".
Do they keep in touch with each other still?
Your sister may not have had the final say who was invited, especially if she wasn't paying for the party.
She might have felt uncomfortable about it on your behalf.
I hope you've had a nice birthday with your own family 🥳