Sister Wives - could you?

There are many communities of these Polygamous Mormons. The young men are often driven out. The wives often claim benefits. There is often neglect of the least favourite wives and children. It’s a terrible lifestyle for the wives and children involved. The men often marry minors. Warren Jeffries was finally tossed in jail for it. It’s only Nirvana for the men.
Yes, the more fundamentalist communities with elders in charge of others can be very abusive, but (so far) this all seems consensual and happy enough. I don't see that they are doing any harm, but obviously it's possible that only one side of their lifestyle is being shown. Everyone concerned seems to be happy with the arrangements, and there have only been a couple of minor niggles of the sort that would happen in most monogamous marriages.

I definitely reserve the right to change my mind as the series goes on (particularly in the light of comments from people who have seen the rest of the programmes), but so far it all seems harmless enough (if odd).

It seems that they pool resources and have some sort of communal budget, which might be difficult for the wives who work. The new one is looking for a job as she has moved a long way to marry the husband, and at least one of the other wives isn't thrilled about having another four mouths to feed with no financial contribution from the new wife (who is still a fiancé on the episode I'm up to).

Er no its misogyny on speed.

Doodledog

Ooh, well I might reconsider if I could be number one wife . There would still be spare men though, wouldn't there?

I don't think I would take kindly to another woman disciplining my children. They'd have to unless all the wives were always with all the children, but everyone has their own ways with things like that, and I don't think I'd like it.

Yes, I thought it was an interesting position!

Having nannies for the children sounds like a good idea, though.

I wish I could remember which island it was.

Doodledog

LucyAnna

Hithere is right - I binge watched this series when I was unwell a couple of years ago. There ends up being quite a lot of disharmony ! ( I assume you’re talking about the family with Kody as the “husband”?’

Yes, that's the one. They are seemingly content at present, but time will tell. . .

I think a lot must have to do with upbringing, Sparklefizz. I wouldn't want to share a husband either, but we are brought up to believe monogamy is the ideal. I am wondering what happens to all the spare men. If every man has several wives that must mean that several men have no wives at all, and in a religion where sex outside of marriage is frowned upon, what happens to them?

There are many communities of these Polygamous Mormons. The young men are often driven out. The wives often claim benefits. There is often neglect of the least favourite wives and children. It’s a terrible lifestyle for the wives and children involved. The men often marry minors. Warren Jeffries was finally tossed in jail for it. It’s only Nirvana for the men.

Ooh, well I might reconsider if I could be number one wife . There would still be spare men though, wouldn't there?

I don't think I would take kindly to another woman disciplining my children. They'd have to unless all the wives were always with all the children, but everyone has their own ways with things like that, and I don't think I'd like it.

Yes, I've heard of this before.

We also went to an island in the Pacific where Number 1 wife moved into her own house with her children when Number 2 wife arrives on the scene, and so on. However subsequent wives have to wait on Number 1 wife 🙂

Polygamy is fully legal in 47 countries

LucyAnna

Hithere is right - I binge watched this series when I was unwell a couple of years ago. There ends up being quite a lot of disharmony ! ( I assume you’re talking about the family with Kody as the “husband”?’

Yes, that's the one. They are seemingly content at present, but time will tell. . .

I think a lot must have to do with upbringing, Sparklefizz. I wouldn't want to share a husband either, but we are brought up to believe monogamy is the ideal. I am wondering what happens to all the spare men. If every man has several wives that must mean that several men have no wives at all, and in a religion where sex outside of marriage is frowned upon, what happens to them?

I have seen it some time ago . Looks 'ok' on the face of things , but I have my doubts! Certainly wouldn't do for me.

I know I couldn't share. I had a husband who had a lot of affairs. The strain made me ill.

But ..... I suppose if you've been brought up with that way of life you might be more accepting.

I remember reading a book years ago called The Nineteenth Wife which was gripping. (It was fiction)

Hithere is right - I binge watched this series when I was unwell a couple of years ago. There ends up being quite a lot of disharmony ! ( I assume you’re talking about the family with Kody as the “husband”?’

Ah, I see. I'm making hard work of this conversation, aren't I?

Oh. Well, I shall look forward to a bit of domestic disharmony . They are about to bring a new wife into the household. She's just choosing her wedding dress now, but I have to go and chop things in the kitchen, so will put them all on pause.

Hithere

That family you are talking about - bumpy ride

Why? Is there something about this family we don't know about??

I don't think I would want to do it but I really don't have a problem with it so long as it is their choice to live like that, and no one is being coerced in any way. I wonder if they are free to leave if they want to? Leaving aside the sex angle, it provides a lot of the support multi-generational families still provide in some countries - people you trust to help out when someone is sick, or to babysit when necessary.

I remember a while ago reading a book written by someone who had shared a polygamous lifestyle and she didn't seem to have been unhappy, although I can't really remember why she left at the end.

That family you are talking about - bumpy ride

Hithere

Ride sorry

Ah. Why? Has this been discussed before?

Sorry?

Ride sorry

Get ready for a bumpy tode@