Getting 'told off' by DH anyone else experienced this strange behaviour?

I would guess you like the bikes more than he does?

Has something else happened that he feels is your fault, but can't for some reason resolve it?

Curiousdan - he’s not having an affair - my DH (now Ex) started picking on me for everything - too much salt in the food, his shirts were not washed well enough , I didn’t dress well enough, our children were not dressed well , everything about me was wrong - you’ve guessed it -he was having an affair and finally, we divorced and he married. This was 20+ years ago. I’m not saying your DH is having an affair - (my Ex was much younger than your DH) - mind you I guess you can have affairs at any age . In this case, I think your DH is just grumpy 😂

P.S.There should be a ? after ‘affair’

I would do as others say and agree, but it would get to me and I would clear off out somewhere for the day or something after telling him I wasn’t a child and find someone else to boss, I don’t take underserved criticism very well. So it wouldn’t end well for me.

All I'll say is that by suggesting he produces a list of things you can and can't do is giving him permission to control your life? Is that what you really want?

NanaDana

All I'll say is that by suggesting he produces a list of things you can and can't do is giving him permission to control your life? Is that what you really want?

Exactly!

I simply wouldn’t put up with that behaviour. I would find plenty to do that doesn’t involve him.

Is he angry about things? His life?

Oh yeah!
Men def get grumpier with age.DP is a regular Victor Meldrew and he never used to be.I laugh it off or ignore it.

KittyLester
I used to think my father was grumpy because he was married to my mother. ^^

Good for you being happily married , I congratulate you but I am happy being single it works for me.
Good job we are not all the same I say and I have never let a man dictate to me.

Borrheid55

When my DH uses the word ‘should’, I answer by using the word Dad! ‘ Should ‘ is a word used by people in ‘critical parent’ mode. The likely response is the rebellious child or compliant child voice. If you were speaking to a toddler, think of the responses that you would get. (NO or yes daddy) . I was a management skills trainer and when I did a session on Transactional Analysis , people realised that bosses who used the critical parent voice came across as aggressive, bullying, pedantic and generally not good news. Lots of delegates commented on how understanding the ‘voice’ that was used, helped a huge amount!
When hearing that voice from our other halfs, it’s no wonder we get irritated.

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My husbands would never have dared to talk to me that way. I was the one 'in charge' and they knew it.

Nicegranny

My mother used to say that “men get miserable when they get older”.
I’m so glad I’m divorced and happily living on my own.

How many men did your mother know to make such a ridiculous statement?

I hope you are joking that you have asked you DH to write down a list of dos and don’ts. Please stand up to him he sounds a right pain in the proverbial 👎

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

Well TBH GagaJo so would I.

Yes but separation and living alone and starting again ain't an easy route once you get quite a bit older. But the relief in constantly not being given negative feedback about ones very personality.....

GagaJo

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

Been sitting on my hands- but this, yes!

GagaJo

I'd tell him to f*ck off.

This! 🤣

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It sounds as if he's bored.

Can you persuade him to join some clubs, go out more and find other people to whinge talk to?

You could buy him something like this for a present, his specs, bits and bobs, TV controls etc will all be safe and handy next to his chair. Just keep tidying them into there until he gets the message.

I think women adapt better to retirement than men.

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According to my ex-H, everything was my fault. He was not old or retired...