Finding a decent man on Online dating over 50

A friend of my Mother-in-law met a man later in life. She tried the regular dating sites and said she met a lot of unsuitable men over some years who did not really want an "equal relationship".

She is bright and witty and eventually concluded that she would be better on a mature professionals site where people might be taking the search more seriously (and not be married or have debts etc). As she said the fees were very high and deterred time-wasters.

She liked that site as they didn't have any "no hopers" to wade through either and the men were well travelled, well mannered and generally comfortable in their own skin. She met the most lovely man and they are a great couple still, many years later.

She said to me "at my age I had no time to waste and don't want to be alone forever".

Good luck coastalgran.

Great response to that guy, Gagajo! I’m sure there are good men out there, but all too often those that crop up on dating sites aren’t looking for a woman who’ll be their equal. I don’t think it occurs to them to wonder what we women might want from a relationship.

I live in an over 60s retirement apartment with my husband we have had one wedding here and a new romance after a new lady moved in, although I don't think they are moving in together. It's all happening here 😊

My dad is in a care home after the death of his wife (step mother) last year. He's already been caught in bed with one woman. Not that he's any kind of catch. She must have wanted her head testing!

Not sure, I am so so lucky to be with the same man for the past 53 years, especially as he was not expected to live beyond 55. 22 years bonus so far and going strong.

But I do believe that if ever I wanted to meet a man, I would not use the internet- but get more active in groups of people who share my love of nature, flora, fauna, walking, and culture- and go on single holidays linked to the above... and see.

I met my second husband online 15 years ago , we were both in our early 40's. My advice is , Know what you want and what you don't, don't reply to anything weird or a dick pic. Take your time to get to know someone, meet for coffee etc before you decide to go on a proper date . It can be fun

I’ve met a few online and not one of them as worked out. Last one was near 3yrs got engaged to him then I received a message from this other woman asking why I was seeing her bf and I said I was with him for nearly 3yrs she apologised she was with him less had photos etc so I confronted him he said he couldn’t help it love me bla bla after I dumped him I put up a post and turned out he had a few of us. I’ve seen them stopped using online dating lol but I know one of my daughter inlaw dad met someone on over 50s and they doing well but for me I’ve given up lol