Whose right here

Other half recently cleared up the garden quite a lot (back in early February). It is all piled up at the bottom of the garden still, and would be around 10 garden sacks worth. I also have three black bags with some old rugs in them. I asked when he said he would take it all to the dump (he is retired and drives, I work two days a week). He said ‘soon’. My adult son came round today and asked when the carpets are going. I said I might pay the council at which point he said he would take it all and I could pay him instead. I agreed to this. I just want it out of the way.

When son left DH asked me if I hadn’t been a little undermining to him. I said DS had offered! DH has form for saying this sort of thing to me. He doesn’t want to take the rubbish, so I made different arrangements. When he says things like this I actually feel quite sick. I also find it embarrassing to have a load of rubbish in the sight of my, very nice, neighbours.