I have worked with victims of sexual abuse. I agree with those who say 'write it down for you'. Don't have a preconceived idea of what you might end up writing and for whom, just write it to begin with. You may even wish, if using a computer, to use a misleading title to save it under.
As you write, consider contacting a counselling service that helps people in your situation.
I think that as you write, and if you talk about it to a counsellor, the course may become much clearer in your own mind. I tend to agree with vampirequeen, but I think you will find the best path for you and your family.