I always give mine money in an envelope addressed to both of them, I also do a "stocking " each and spend roughly the same on each. I would be embarrassed to give my son a lot more than DIL
I have joined here to try and get your perspective please.
We bought our DIL two presents for Christmas. But bought our Son a few more and gave him some cash. He wasn’t impressed and didn’t see why we hadn’t just given the money to them both to share.
I think he’s making an issue out of nothing. He’s our son, it’s surely normal to spend more on him?
My husband also thinks our Son is causing unnecessary drama.