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This is so sad, hoping your daughter becomes a mum soon, poor lady, I can’t imagine how she must be feeling, sending virtual hugs to her and you

Thank you so much for all your kind words. They mean a lot. My DS told his sister about the baby. She is obviously pleased for him. But........ Then this morning my DB told me that his DS and DiL are expecting a baby. My DD should have moved house at the end of November, but due to very basic errors from solicitors at both ends of ths chain, that may not happen until February!! My heart actually physically aches for my DD. As everyone of you will agree there is nothing worse than seeing you children in so much anguish. As parents we would do anything to take that pain away. I read on here some months ago " you can only ever be as happy as your unhappiest child". That is one of the most profound and true sentiments I have ever read. Thank you again for your kind words and wishes. Xx

Lizbethan, your poor daughter, how heartbreaking for her. I’m sure, as you say, she will be happy for her brother but nevertheless sad for herself. You sound like a lovely caring family and are lucky to have each other.

It's a very sad and difficult time when a family suffers a Babyloss, either via miscarriage or stillbirth. As the mother of five daughters, I have experienced both as a Grandparent, DD4 suffered 5 miscarriges, then after help from the NHS fertility clinic at our Local Hospital, she managed to give birth to a baby girl when she was 32, surprisingly followed by a baby boy exactly a year later. She had almost given up hope of ever becoming a mother, although the Consultant Obstetrician responsible for her care told her that most women manage to deliver a baby of their own eventually, but some can take a decade or more of failures and treatment to do so.
DD4 was treated with Metformin tablets, and was with a new partner for two years before their Children were born.

Hopefully one day your daughter may have a similar happy outcome and become a Mum herself, often it will happen when she least expects it. Good Luck.

Lizbethann I have no words of advice just a virtual hug and hope that next year will be so much better for both you and your Daughter.

I had 3 miscarriages, all were assisted pregnancies, before I had DD l I can so sympathise with your daughter, pasting a smile on your face for others when your heart is broken is exhausting . I can do nothing but send her love and hope that she is eventually as lucky as I was .

I am sorry your DD has had such a hard year. I hope you can rejoice a little with your DS and partner.
35 years ago now I had a DD who was stillborn. 3 close friends had daughters at approximately the same time. I am godmother to all 3. I found it hard buying presents for them and going to baptisms. However now there is something really lovely about our 3 God daughters all the same age as our DD would have been.
Your DD will come through all this and hopefully a pregnancy will work out for her in the near future.

Your daughter sounds so wise. I am so sorry that she has gone through all this and that you have to watch your "child" go through it; that is so painful for you.

So sorry for your daughter Lizbethann55 she is coping very well, your support must be very important to her. I hope things improve soon.

So sorry. I’d have thought in 40 years since something similar - things might have moved forward - obviously not. ?

I'm so sorry to hear this. Your poor daughter!!

Just be there with love and hugs. And love and hugs for you too.

What a nightmare year for your daughter and all the family. It's far too common.
Has she had any contact with SANDS? They were a great help to a couple I know following a still-birth and a miscarriage.

As a person with multiple miscarriages and friends having kids, I sympathize, it is so hard.

Your daughter has the right idea and she is handling it like a pro.
Life around you doesnt stop.

As lame as it sounds, time helps.

I, too, am sorry for all your daughter has gone through. And for you too. It hurts when our children are hurting, especially when it's something like this.

I don't know what to say Lizbethann. To say I'm so sorry for all that your DD has gone through seems woefully inadequate, but I am truly sorry.