Husbands snoring and holidays

Thanks for that Asanga. I'm pleased to report DH is a lot better since he lost a bit more weight and most nights we manage to stay in the same room together .It doesn't stop me still hating the idea of being 'trapped ' in a hotel room with nowhere else to go if we're away.We have nothing planned together holiday wise for months now but I will always book 2 rooms in apartments in future - or the largest bed possible if an hotel stay.I do love him really !I have also got used to my Sheep -phones wireless headband and have found a not too dramatic podcast helps me nod off and block out noises.

Isn't interesting that as couples get older the problems always seem to be her insomnia and his snoring. Rarely, if ever, the other way round. We are just one of the thousands (millions??) of couples like that. Is there some fiendish DNA programming at work? Perhaps in the past so few couples grew old together it wasn't a problem.

I certainly sympathise with you!I have just returned from a three week holiday abroad which was amazing,apart from the fact I had very little sleep due to a snoring husband next to me.No issue at home as I will sleep in a spare room if I need to.Very little sleep- very grumpy me!

I have being studying about this subject while and One of video I have found interesting is below. Talking about a person who came out of his snoring by simple exercises Hope you will be interested too.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxnDmPgL7Tg

Yes my husband snored for England so we resorted to separate rooms - he was also diagnosed with sleep apnea over ten years ago and uses the CPAP machine but we are so used to our own beds we are still in separate rooms. We don't holiday much but when we have we've had an apartment with 2 bedrooms or have paid for 2 rooms in a hotel if it's just a couple of nights.

We pay for two rooms. A little single and a double where we can sit and watch Tv an talk.
One hotel asked if the large room was for DH. Definitely not I said he's in the single.

I should say, her baby doesn't snore - it's to help her go to sleep!

Washerwoman, I sympathise, although my Dh is only an intermittent snorer so I haven't had to resort to separate rooms. An idea you might want to consider is a white noise machine. It gives you a soothing background sound against which the snoring might not seem so bad. You can get apps for smart phones, too. My dd uses one for her baby.

Washerwoman I didn’t mean to belittle anyone as I know snoring can be a huge problem. My DH worried a lot about the noise he made (although he claimed I snored as well ?).
He had some sort of surgery on his nose but it didn’t really make much difference. I did used to poke him in the back if the decibels reached mega proportions! Three years without him now, can’t believe it really.

He has been to the GP and was given a spray.And he had a referral to an ENT specialist and had a nasal polyp removed a few years ago.That did seem to help for a while,But he doesn't have sleep apnoea where he stops and starts ,more steady rhyming but loud snoring.Which is always worse when he has had a meal plus alchohol.I think it's exacerbated on holidays because he does relax and have more beers or wine than be would at home,which he enjoys so I don't feel I can ask him to abstain.It's about finding a balance so we can both enjoy a break together.

Washerwoman Would your DH consider going for a consultation with a 'sleep doctor'? Eventually, my DH went to the Sleep Disorder Centre (I think it's called something else now) and his sleep apnoea was off the scale! He uses a CPAP machine, which pumps oxygen through a mask, and takes it on holiday as well - airlines are fine about having them onboard. Oh, the relief!!!

Lack of sleep in the advancing years makes you feel quite ill really. To think that in youth you wouldn't be bothered about missing a night and carried on the next day bright and breezy.

My lovely friend snored like an old grampus,as bad as any man but going to sleep for me was never a problem. I think her snoring used to send me off. Wherever we were the place fairly shook. All that bothered me were those next door thinking it might have been me.

Bellasnana .Sorry for your loss.Yes my late FIL was a big snorer too and my MIL always always said she would rather have him snoring away than be without him,which I thought was very sweet.I love my DH dearly,and have a very close relationship with him but I simply don't function well and get very run down without adequate sleep.DH understands completely.Whatever works for each couple I guess.

Thank you for replying.I knew I wasn't alone,and DH is a lovely chap who has tried snoring remedies and I hate feeling so resentful when I'm tired.Also it spoils the anticipation of special events like a reunion with friends in an hotel for a special birthday that is coming up soon. But I really feel 2 bedroom apartments or cottages will have to be the way from now on after that.Plus flying only if we really have to.Holidays are meant to be relaxing after all .
For some reason I just can't keep any earplugs in.I have tried various brands and sizes.I do resort to a swig of Night Nurse if desperate at home ,as that knocks me out if I have a cold,but that's not a good thing to take ordinarily.My next ordeal is Xmas as family are staying so no spare beds.Plus all the extra work the festive season entails.Ho hum !

My late DH snored but I never resorted to separate beds or rooms. I wish he was still next to me snoring away, it’s much too quiet without him.

wot, I also use the 'Muffles' wax earplugs from Boots. I've found that just holding them in my hand for a few minutes is enough time to soften them to fit my ears. I don't need to cut them.
I think I must spend half the week in the spare room, due to DH's snoring. I start off in our bed, then halfway through the night I find myself trudging through to the other room.

Use wax earplugs from Boots. Cut in half otherwise they are too big. They block most sounds.

So sympathise, DH's snoring gets so bad I could cheerfully smother him with a pillow. I too get anxious about going anywhere where sleeping means just one bed as I can't escape. Have you tried over the counter sleep remedies? We go away in our caravan where there's not much room to roam but at least it's familiar.

I feel your pain Washerwoman I feel exactly the same regarding holidays. By the time the animals are sorted and hotel, flights etc booked I'm stressed out. Don't get me started on airport issues, why does my chipped passport never work in the machine ?
We have separate rooms at home which we both like so hotels are difficult although I enjoy meals etc there. Seems like an apartment with 2 bedrooms is the way to go or just stay at home.

We have the same problem and as KatyK has said look for 2 bedroom apartments but if that's not possible I get sleeping tablets from my doctor.

Not ideal for more than a couple of nights as they leave me a but sleepy in the morning but better than being kept awake.

I had a couple of years of this and became very angry and resentful. I am a light sleeper and if I didn't get to sleep before my husband I hardly slept at all.. The thought of it made me stressed before I even got into bed.

If I mentioned it to him he would get angry and tell me I snored as well.

Eventually I moved to a separate room. I like my own space. I don't think he likes it much but I am keeping things as they are.

By the way, DH has tried various remedies, been checked by a GP for a cause to no avail and he's not overweight which is sometimes blamed.

We have this problem. We rarely stay in hotels. We always look for two bedroomed apartments if possible. It can make it more expensive but at least we sleep. Fortunately neither of us is keen on hotels anyway. It's a very common problem I think.

I think Paw must have suffered as I snore like a train.
Fortunately (?) his hearing deteriorated but when we were away, single beds did make it less acute for him. Renting a cottage etc we sometimes went for one with 2 bedrooms.
I felt so bad about it, still do.