Gender reveal party?

My daughter had a gender reveal party, stating 'no presents'.

I didn't think I would enjoy it, but it was great fun. My D already has a little girl, so a little boy would have been nice for dad. I went to scan with strict instructions not to look for gender, both myself & D were convinced it was a boy.

The party was great, we had photos in a big frame [held up around us] and we had to hold up blue or pink paraphernalia for our choice, already had a badge pinned on as we came in the door.

Finally the cake was cut, we had been told that if it was a boy, it would be blue smarties falling out the middle, as blue in a cake isn't nice. So when they cut it, and it was pink I & my DD were so shocked, as we were convinced it would be blue! It was a great party, we all had such fun.

Baby girl is now 4mnths old and loved and adored by all.

When people clap when the blue balloon popped out would they have booed if it had been a pink one?Just asking

Can’t see any harm in it myself. Life is so full of doom and gloom it’s just a bit of fun to celebrate a happy event.

Give me strength ?

In days gone by producing a healthy infant was top priority not what sex it was.

No doubt the folk invited to the party have to take gifts.

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I got a video the other week from my friend’s daughter showing them all round a big white balloon. The mummy burst the balloon and a smaller blue balloon and blue confetti popped out to much cheering and clapping from the assembled company.

A wee bit OTT for me.

With the 20week scan due early December my DS and DiL will not ask the question. Meantime they are planning a nursery with pale blue sky with clouds above the dado and soft green below.
All knitting being undertaken is white.
The only family member who is expressing a preference is DGS who would prefer a girl cousin (he has 3 sisters) so that he'll remain the only boy!

It seems like another contrived and materialistic way of parting people from their money.

I also agree re the 'counting chickens' aspect of baby shower/gender reveal parties. It did leave me feeling a bit uneasy when I threw a shower for my dd.

I agree Maryeliza. One learns of the sex of one's baby, not its gender.

Where I live, the hospital won't tell you the sex of your baby from the scan so you have to pay privately if you want to know prior to birth. My own dd chose not to find out and I must admit, it was very exciting to find out the old-fashioned way!

Actually Nonnie that’s my main reason for not liking baby showers and a second reason for not liking ‘gender’ reveal parties. But overall I hate this commidification of pregnancy and babies.

When this came up in a thread a few weeks ago some suggested that these parties and showers were premature as not all pregnancies result in a baby. I remember when everyone waited until after the birth to buy anything 'just in case'

I don’t understand your post at all stella - I was making the point that ‘gender’ reveal parties feed into the whole frenzy of trans activism by encouraging gender stereotypes and substituting that erroneously for sex. The TAs are now using the the stupid phrase ‘ gender assigned at birth’. Gender critical feminists like me say sex is identified at birth based on biological facts ( I know there is the intersex issue but that’s not part of this debate) .

sounds to me like an attempt to get presents from friends.

Oh dear - soon we'll be banning doctors from saying "It's a boy ! " or "It's a girl !" . Transactivism is going to make us all a pale shade of beige, for fear of upsetting anyone.

Actually Bluebell some of us gender critical feminists seriously believe that it’s this increasingly emphasis on ‘gender’ that is making it more likely that some children and parents start to worry about being ‘in the wrong body’. For example some parents are recorded as saying about their very small son that they are sure he wants to transition because he likes dressing up or won’t play with cars. If we tightly define gender we make it hard for those children who don’t fit the stereotype. These parties are not harmless fun but part of a mind set that potentially harms children

Missadventure why worry they will probably change by the time their 12 ?
I wonder what colour the gender neutral folks have in their cakes ? rainbows I guess

I agree Miss,A I find it self absorbed and meaningless. Why such an emphasis on the baby’s sex? I suppose it’s to get the nursery appropriately decorated to start developing the increasingly straightened gender parameters within which we are bringing up our children - and that’s to the detriment of both sexes.

I may be a cynical, but I can't help thinking that most people won't care what sex your baby is.

I suspect that my children won't be having any more babies, but if they did, and they had one of these parties, yes I'd go . Nothing wrong with a bit of fun .

I ve heard of it, another totally unnecessary, silly American thing passed to us No one I know has ever had one hopefully it ll disappear again soon
Another load of old tripe

My son and his American wife revealed the sex of my grandchild at their wedding when they cut into the bottom tier of their cake! Blue sponge for a boy! They delayed the scan until I was able to go with them to the hospital so I already knew but it was a surprise to the other guests. My 84 year old mum thought it very strange to advertise the pregnancy at the wedding!

It’s a sex reveal party - you can’t reveal gender as it’s a social construct but you can reveal sex as it’s a biological fact for the vast vast majority of babies

I've heard of it....it's an American thing, which is catching on here in the U.K.
Sure, I'd go to one if I was invited. My daughter didn't have one, but I did a nice dinner for her, couple of her friends and a couple of my friends. However, my daughter's-in-law had baby showers, but not a baby naming party.

You can buy gender reveal cakes from M&S. It's a bit like the baby shower trend, I guess. My dd had a shower but only because her friends wanted her to have one. She didn't know whether she was having a boy or girl so her gender reveal was in the delivery room!

I think I'd go if I was invited. However, I don't think I'd bother to host such a party if I happened to be having a baby.