Daughter's father died when she was 10

Are you going to take part in this one Retr0gran or just set the hare running and then disappear like your mealtime thread?

Not much point if you’re not going to join in is there?

guilty ,we also offered a downstairs room to MIL an dthen converted it to an office.Things change .As it happens my MIL doesn't mind sleeping upstairs when she has visited ,usually a week every two months or so.She says she's happier being upstairs with us and the GC .She's 83 and has some mobility issues but climbing stairs seems to help strengthen her leg muscles ..or so she says .

Eglantine21..... does Retrogran have a history? Just nosey

crazyH retr0 was the OP of the "slow eating grandchildren" thread if you remember that from... last week I think?

Found it, thought it was deleted for some reason
www.gransnet.com/forums/food/1249860-Dinner-time-probs

Thanks muffinthemoo?

I commented on a Retrogran thread, got a slapped wrist and my post was deleted, so I’m not going to say it again.

Then the whole thread was deleted.

But maybe it was put back on again?

Anyway, I’m not going to say the same thing again, because I am a changed person.......?

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Sorry Retrogran, but a few weeks back your post mentioned your 11 yr old daughter and your DH, is this the same daughter now grown up?
If so maybe the problems go way back.......

They grow up so fast these days.

I’m getting too old and cynical for this forum

It’s silly season Oops - post GCSE and A levels!

Looking at the other thread maybe that is the reason there are problems. There will be difficulties if you visit and criticise grandchildren.

Your daughter is not obligated to take you into her home to live. While it may be lovely, it may not be realistic:

-If you can't navigate her stairs her home may not be designed to allow that
-If you develop dementia she may have difficulty caring for you
-If your physical needs require her to lift or transfer you she may not be able to do that

While it's commendable that some adult children choose to care for their parents at home, it's not a reality for everyone. Some people genuinely are better off in a care facility if their physical and/or mental needs make it too challenging for them to be cared for at home. (For example, there are major safety concerns for people with dementia vis a vis wandering; if you require a mechanical lift for transferring that's a two-person job, so your daughter would need help.)

As well as the thread on speeding up her 3 grandchildren's slow eating, retrogran has also posted about her grandaughter being told that her mother wasn't going to pull in for her having a pee, she could wait until they got home in an hour.

Ah, the ubiquitous weewee post rears its ugly head..

Awwww....poor little thing...I hope she did a weewee on the car seat....on second thoughts, I hope she didn't. Can you imagine what would have happened if she did ?

Sorry, unexpected visitor, followed by a holiday, back home now!

Crazyann, what history do you want? I'm just new to this site. Was there a place to add a history?

Don’t quite understand the relevance of the thread title or what it has to do with anything.

Oopsadaisy53, yes, same person, and I do wonder if there is a connection. I had no backup support when bringing up 3 kids on my own, she obv worshipped her Dad and there was no counselling for bereaved children then.

Mawbroon, I think there .might be a connection. She adored her dad, he died v suddenly, maybe I didn't manage her well, but she seems to hate me now.

Blencathra, I have never criticised the GC!