Widowhood.

Just to say thanks to all.

Gransnet got me through a difficult Christmas. It's so great to be able to be open and honest and have such wonderful support. Friends and family are wonderful but on here I could be much more honest.

I was wondering if it would be a good idea to set up a separate section for Widows?

for you all.

Went to Beamish today with my grandson to take the tinsel off my husband's seat. The workers there were taking down the lights. They reckon it takes them three months to put them all up, and three weeks to take them down again. Hope they are not superstitious.

Biker, where do you live? My aunt goes linedancing with her brother and his wife. They live in Berkshire.

So sorry for you, biker. At least my grandchildren will all remember their grandad, even the youngest who was only four when he died.

No, stay with us all Falconbird, we are like family

Hi Durhamjen I am in North Lancashire. The older GS whos 8 remembers,,,in fact he has chatted about him a lot recently ( I manage not to cry most of the time) when hes talking about granddad and eating his liquorice allsorts! and how grandads big photo which dd has up, grandad keeps watching him he says lol.

A long way to go to do linedancing with my aunt and uncle, biker.

lol durhamjem

My husband died of a heart attack when I was 43 and he was 45. That was 20 years ago. It was hard - four children aged 15-5, and no money! But the worse thing was that I didn't know who I was (I'd been with him Since I was 19 - so all my adult life - he was the other half of me). I missed him so much, still do. I made a lot of mistakes on my journey to find out who I was, and it took me about 4 years.

But I'm still here, and have a lovely life. No grandchildren as yet, but I have recently retired and got myself the most gorgeous puppy, who is much adored! (My grandchild substitute!)

I have a lot of good friends, just about all of whom are single too! And we help each other out, go on trips, holidays together.

But I still miss him. Sometimes it takes me by surprise and completely overwhelms me for a few hours. I have lovely memories though.

Notagran51

Hi GN's. I'm new to this so bear with me please. I was widowed 15 weeks ago tonight. So lonely, so painful, still can't really believe it. Nothing is the same anymore. I found this site and have been dipping in and out for about a week now. Helps me when I cannot sleep.

This is a good place to find when you're sad; you'll find a lot of comfort on here. Hugs to you .

Dear nannieroz111

It is such early days for you. I was widowed two and a half years ago and it does get better honestly although I know that's hard to believe at the moment.

The mornings are the worst for me and that's when I log on to Gransnet to see what's going on.

This is a safe place where you can express your feelings

Thank you Tegan and Falconbird. I hope you know how helpful you are. R x

nannieroz
I was widowed 3 years ago today.
It does become easier to bear in time; two steps forward and one back. Just take every day at a time, go at your own pace and give in to the very bad days.

I've been re-reading this thread, and realise how lucky I am still to have DH. He was grumpy yesterday and after he went off to bed, I sat for ages with Gransnet for company. He's now banging about in the kitchen, after having brought me a cup of tea in bed. I'm counting my blessings.

Thinking of you today Marmight as you face the third anniversary.
What will you be doing?
Such wise words about giving in to the bad days. Grieve seems to have an agenda all of its own and like you I have found that the best way is to
go with it.

Thanks narg. I have spoken to 2 of my 3 daughters so far, am having coffee with a friend, and then I am spending the afternoon having a facial, a pedicure and a back massage!! This is the first anniversary I have been at home, so it is all the more poignant. But, upwards and onwards as they say

Marmight, ((((hugs)))).

.... and from me too Marmight
in fact, to all who are hurting.

Thank you Marmight. I will take your advice about giving in to the bad days.

marmight. My DH will get his results next week to see if the radiotherapy on his cancer has worked. To say I am terrified would be an understatement. So sorry for all of you who have lost your partners.

Marmight KatyK I'm thinking of you. I remember how horrible that time was. It's 12 in a couple of months for me!

12years, that was.

Thank you Galen for you too

Yes, stay with us, Falconbird - GN is a good, compassionate community at heart. And we would miss you. X

Marmight I remember you telling us, three years ago, of your DH's death. Grief can ambush you, can't it?

to all of you who grieve, and respect and admiration for you too.

I remember too, Marmight! And, I agree with Ariadne about GN. We are kind and compassionate and here for people when they need us!

I can only imagine what your thoughts are KatyK.