Think of all the good times- and let your mum know you are there, and that you give her your blessing and support hug
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This is so hard. my poor mum never suffered abuse as your mum did- but she also turned her head to the wall one day, and refused all food, drink and care. If we love them- we have to respect that and let them go- the hardest thing to do.
Glad she had a few good months in her new home, and for you to feel she was properly cared for there.
and (((hugs)))
I've posted before about Mum's fighting spirit and refusal to give in despite neglect and abuse in her last care home.
The nursing home she has been in for the last 18 months has given her the best of care so we've had time to put the bad times behind us and enjoy watching her regain her sense of humour and live a contented and comfortable life despite her increasing dementia.
Things took a turn for the worse when we visited on Monday. She appeared even more frail and reluctant to eat and drink. I went in again today and she is now refusing all personal care and doesn't want to be touched although she did let me hug and kiss her.
I'm going in again tomorrow as I think she has decided that enough's enough and it's time to go. If that's the case I hope she doesn't linger in this kind of limbo that she's now in. 
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