Ah ...we currently have this problem with our rescue cat ..she has been with us now for about 3 years or even 4 ! When she arrived (just strolled in during one night, through the cat flap) we had three other cats ...one aged about 23 who then died of old age ....a Spanish stray who unfortunately had a neurological disorder and had to be put to sleep, and another that joined us from the house opposite to avoid the three small children (the owner was only too happy for him to live with us and we had him neutered)...he sadly disappeared one night and despite a tattoo and posting ads all over the village he never returned ...NOW a cat belonging to another neighbour with two small children has arrived through the cat flap and seems to have decided to stay ....our stray cat HATES him and simply will not accept him ...I told her (like you do ) that she was lucky when she arrived our three accepted her !) she now pretends to be frightened of him (he is a lovely cat ...friendly, lovable ....whereas our cat is the neighbourhood bully ..she terrifies the little cat next door as well as their two Shi'tzus .....she is also extremely aggressive ...she does not like being touched unless it is her idea I have been sent to he Urgences for anti biotic injections following bites and scratches ...and even today I have a deep bite on my hand and a 5 inch long deep scar on my arm ...so far this time though no fever ..I keep bathing them with antiseptic !
My doc says this cat is dangerous and needs to be put down ...I agree, it is dangerous but my husband refuses to part with it (even though it attacks him a well ...) so what to do ? The other evening in the freezing cold (below zero) he was out going up and down the street calling it ...he is 84 and not in the best of health ...he refuses to listen when I say IT IS A CAT if it wants to go out it will doubtless come back when it wants ......his whole life is the cat ....he #can#t go out# because the cat might be frightened of he other one........etc etc ....looking out for this cat is now his whole life !
What to do ? as I said, I try to tell him it is a cat and is probably doing all this to make us feel guilty that we have allowed in the other cat ......someone suggested getting some Feliway (or something) to spray on the cat beds to keep them calm ....anyone tried this ? does it work !!!
Getting desperate ! 