Been there, done that, got the t shirt.
Paw had signed a DNR during his penultimate hospitalisation after discussion with me and with the girls. It was clear his body would not survive any attempts to “bring him back” were he to suffer a cardiac arrest -this time
When the end came and he suffered multiple organ failure after a massive internal haemorrhage, nevertheless, ITU were prepared to support his organs in the hope that one or more might show signs of recovery - no rush, no pressure.
When after 18 hours of no change, the consultant and I had “the conversation“ and over the next few hours he was allowed to gradually slip away - allowing us time for the family to be together with him at the end.
There was never any pressure and I could have had him for another 12/24 hours if we had felt it served any real purpose.
He received the Last Rites and it was the most peaceful, kindest gentlest passing you could have wished for - if pass he must.
I wish people would be less histrionic about DNR’s - why prolong suffering, why hang on to a life which is ready to go?