I’m another one who’s son went to Oxford. Like you Lemon I have some insight into how things are there. The majority of his friends, who often visited our home, went to comprehensive schools, but not all. He wasn’t friendly with anyone who went to Eton, perhaps he knew some but he never said. He described Oxford as ‘....the bastion of the middle classes...’ in other words, mainly middle class students went there. The amount of inverted snobbery about Oxford never goes away. The young people who go to Oxford all worked hard to get there, from whichever school they went to. Unfortunately in many comprehensive schools there is still the attitude of ‘not for the likes of us.’ I know this because as a teacher of pupils up to age 18, my husband was often involved in meetings with teachers from other schools, and as part of his role was university admissions, he described this attitude that he came across regularly. Also my son, whilst at Oxford, was involved in ‘outreach’ which was Oxford students visiting state schools and talking about Oxford to the pupils, in order to encourage pupils in state schools to consider applying to Oxford.
Whatever we like to think, not all comprehensive schools are alike. For example the school Blair’s children went to, St Olave’s, which sends many children to Oxbridge every year. So do many other top state schools.
Well done to JB for getting to Oxford. An Oxford place doesn’t guarantee a nice person, I find him to be obnoxious, in particular with his disrespectful attitude towards women.