I am probably going to be shot down in flames here but I am feeling really rattled by the perfect storm of sexual harassment complaints that are appearing. The latest - and the one that has provoked me to ask other Gransnetters what they think, is an incident where a Minister touched the knee of a female reporter at a dinner several times, she evidently told him to stop or she would 'punch his face' , he stopped, and apologised. this was in 2002 but she has now chosen to tell.
This seems to me a vindictive move or have I got the thinking all wrong? She dealt with a clumsy groper in a very robust way, and well done that woman, so why is the man now being publicly castigated for an incident that appeared to be done and dusted fifteen years ago?
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(180 Posts)Because he damn well shouldn't have done it in the first place bloody entitled git - he was already a senior Tory by then and should have known better. What about the others he may well have had some sort of go at who didn't have J H-B's confidence ?( she was established by then) . Serves him right to be named and shamed - what right did he think he had in the first place to do that?Yuk
Maybe because it is possible that he carried on doing it to other people who were not so self confident. it is very unlikely that one knock back from a confident woman would have deterred him from trying it on with someone else.
A bit of public embarrassment doesn't seem too high a price to pay for a past sense of entitlement towards women.
I don't mean he should lose his job or anything like that, but being made to feel a bit shamefaced seems about right.
It shouldn't be up to women to say stop it but up to men to not do it
Did she make the claim or reply to a claim in the press?
She didn't make a claim, she told of her experience but did not name the man. He then admitted that it was him and apologised.
Rosina Yes, you're brave to start the topic and I certainly hope people's opinions are not shot down in flames. I think JHB showed a strong rebuff from a strong woman. My understanding is that she didn't choose to tell, the story was published without her input, but I could be wrong. That incident is not worth reporting in my opinion as she dealt with it to her satisfaction at the time.
I do think that there are several MPs across all parties who sexually harass people. I'd like them all sacked.
So many people who work in parliament know who they are and do nothing, which I think will be a bigger problem. I can see this blowing up to be as large as the expenses scandal.
I also think there will be a few false accusations thrown at people who they (either their own party or others) want to get rid of.
I now find all this rather boring, so a man touched a womans knee in 2002.
She sorted him out, has not been in therapy for fifteen years, is not damaged, he shouldn't have done it but must it be news
In recent years we’ve had the expenses scandal, cash for questions, drunken behaviour, scandal of various sorts and now sexual harassment with the knowledge that a Little Black book of affairs, sexual scandals etc. is kept by the whips to force people to support the government.
What a shower, how unprofessional, how undeserving of respect and support.
Hopefully it will contribute to breaking down the culture where it is acceptable for powerful men to exploit their position to hit on women around them.
I'm not a fan of affairs, but that's not against the law or a workplace code of conduct - there's consent on both sides. It's the abuse of power that I object to.
They are elected into office, their job gives them power and we expect them to make good judgements in our interest. If they've shown they abuse that power through lack of judgement or self-control, then they are not fit to be an MP.
I hope the media manage to keep their focus. It's not a sleazy sex story in my opinion.
annie are you wilfully not getting the point? It was unacceptable behaviour regardless of whether it affected her adversely or not. Also the chances are that it is unlikely he only ever did this once. What a pity it wasn’t JC because then you could have had a field day. It’s just NOT ok for this to have happened - what a sleaze bag he is. I would have had to scrub my knee for weeks afterwards with carbolic.
Mind you I would also have used my knee for something else in that situation?
I don't think they should lose their jobs in cases like this one, but it would be nice if they acknowledge, like Michael Fallon has, that what they did was wrong, and they won't be doing it again. At least he seems to know that he acted like a sleazebag.
If these things keep on being treated as non news, then how is the culture ever to change?
Do grow up maryeliza, I couldn't care less if it comes back to the news that Corbyn showed nude photographs of Abbot many years ago, I don't care if he touched her knee all those years ago. I agree with .Hartley Brewer, it's a witch hunt.
We have moved on, and men are now aware knee touching is not acceptable .
When are women going to take responsibility for their decisions, accepting an invite to a mans room is damn stupid , I knew this in the sixties.
If it were a one-off (and how would you know if no one is reporting it) then certainly sacking seems a bit harsh - but naming and shaming is absolutely fine. He’s only admitted it now because it’s come out hasn’t he? JHB could cope with him but what if it had been a young research assistant that had to keep on interacting with him daily? I think we should be very careful of dismissing or minimising something because it happened a long time ago, or it was only once, or he said sorry, or the woman wasn’t ‘harmed’. We are making huge assumptions if we believe that. And how about ‘sugar tits’ and being told to buy sex toys?
Affairs are of course not against the law, but a Tory Party member who assisted Cameron said that affairs are recorded by the whips along with anything else they can hold over MPs and are used to bribe MPs to vote a certain way. As I said, what sleaze bags, how unprofessional how unpleasant.
I thought JHB was having dinner with him? It was 2002 -hardly the dark ages- of course decent men knew behaviour like that was not acceptable then in that type of scenario. How could anyone think that men didn’t know that then? Perhaps you should grow up
Wow if my DH had put his hand in someone’s knee at any stage of our marriage (50 years) he would have known it was unacceptable and I would be cross. So it is nonsense to say that it has ever been acceptable - of course it hasn’t.
Affairs are different - the issues under discussion now are about uninvited and unwanted physical contact, sexualised remarks etc. I’ve had my knees touched in the dim and distant past by many a young man but always in situations where it was part of an already ongoing relationship.
ww I think all party whips use leverage over their MPs
primrose Yes that’s right - sleazy and unprofessional.
It’s been known for years that whips keep little black books - what’s unacceptable is if anything such as sexual harassment or criminal behaviour is not acted upon and just kept for what in effect is ‘blackmail’.
It is more than that. Imagine that happening in any other profession!! It smacks of corruption and yuk.
Utterly unacceptable, and should be stopped immediately.
It all seems to be such a broad spectrum from sexualised banter to outright rape. It's hard to generalise somehow. It depends on the people involved, their relative positions and the specific situations.
Any young actress going alone to an impresario's hotel room then being surprised at what happens is one thing being called sugar tits is another.
I'd think the young actress must have been incredibly naive and that the MPs secretary must have been amazingly complacent to have gone along with that shopping trip and to put up with that language.
No. Nobody should feel sexually harassed at work or anywhere else but women can stand up for themselves and think for themselves too.
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