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Body Image and Self-Esteem

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crimson Wed 30-May-12 12:20:21

More important to discuss healthy eating and exercise [hmm; did not a certain Conservative Govt sell off a lot of playing fields to make money sad]. As for body image and self esteem, it was bad enough in my youth and I suffered with borderline eating disorders for years [probably still do] and my ex husband was always telling me I was overweight even when I was less than 8st. I would hate to be a young woman now with the pressure it brings; 'celebs' showing their post baby figures in bikinis with no mention of the fact they [or so I've been told] have c sections and liposuction at the same time. Even young males are sufering more with anorexia today as well. Very sad.

Bags Wed 30-May-12 12:14:42

Agreed, jess and mamie, and one of the worst features of that "whole bloody industry" is that some women are the bitchiest about other women! It starts even in primary schools!

Annika Wed 30-May-12 12:10:46

self-esteem was taught to me from my parents . I was short (still am !) a bit on the skinny side ( no more !)with mousey thin hair but mum and dad made me feel like a princess.
I have done my best with my three children and now my three grandchildren to make them feel good about themselves. Schools are there to teach all sorts of things and I believe that parents can start the ball rolling at home with the right words, not look how big you are but how about..... you are growing into a lovely young boy/man/girl/ lady.
Its hard these days because the message out there is if you are beautiful you will go far, if not, well no chance!hmm

JessM Wed 30-May-12 11:43:05

Absolutely mamie whole bloody industry based on being bitchy about women. Too fat, too thin, too done up, too casual. etc It makes me sick.

Mamie Wed 30-May-12 11:40:32

I also agree with most of what has been said so far, though I think schools do have a role in discussing issues relevant to the children's lives; it may be the only place where children hear a different point of view. I also think though that it is very hard to keep putting things into the curriculum; I remember an inspector I worked with who used to say "...but what shall we take out?"
I think the media have the biggest changes to make for anything to work. I think the constant harping on about women (and it is mostly about women), their shape, their diets, their clothes is downright misogynistic and vicious in some of the tabloids.

effblinder Wed 30-May-12 11:17:39

I completely agree with everything that has been posted so far. It's about family and peers. I can't see anything that self-esteem lessons are going to acheive apart from making those who aren't happy with their bodies even less so. Lessons can't change an environment or a child's priorities. It's not a "fact" or a "skill" - it's a direct effect of the society we live in.

Polticians trying to foist the responsibility of our youth's emotional wellbeing onto teachers is completely unacceptable.

gracesmum Wed 30-May-12 10:56:13

As an example of self-esteem gone wild, you only have to look at "The Apprentice", don't you? I am afraid it is not only children who are fed unreal images and have body image drummed into them, however, even magazines which I would generally have deemed reputable obsess about "confidence in the older woman" . For example June's Good Housekeeping's cover "Confident YOU. Reveal more and love what you see." or "We're half the women we used to be" and guess what? It usually means a makeover, bit of lippy and ridiculous killer heels.

kittyp Wed 30-May-12 10:44:23

I'm not sure that this is something for a school lesson in any case...shouldn't these messages be enforced far more naturally at home? There are - of course - exceptions to every rule - but bringing up a child to feel loved and secure and good about themselves will go so much further than a teacher in front of a class of 30 children.

I agree with absent that it needs to be a natural thing - if you reinforce that a child is great as long as they try their best then that's one thing. But to tell a child that they are brilliant/beautiful/talented when they are clearly not will only make things worse when reality dawns.

And yes - with the body image...instead of having it drummed into them at school surely better to outlaw this ridiculous airbrushing so children aren't being fed impossible and unreal images to start with?

absentgrana Wed 30-May-12 10:31:00

How much time is there in the school day? How qualified do teachers feel about tackling body image and self-esteem – apparently this is an issue with some children as young as five?

I have to admit I sigh when I hear the words "self-esteem". Self-confidence seems important to me and I certainly don't want people, including children, to hate themselves, but what is self-esteem all about – especially when you are too young to have achieved anything worthwhile? All this boosting children's self-esteem is surely going to mean that the real world is going to come as a terrible shock once they are out there. No employer gives a fig about a teenager's or twenty something's self-esteem when interviewing him or her for a job, for example.

Distorted body image is, of course, a serious concern and a very complex issue.

nanaej Wed 30-May-12 10:18:54

Think you are right mamie once it is on the curriculum it will be also become the school/teacher fault if the problem does not go away!

Good schools will already be promoting positive attitudes towards body image and self-esteem. If the government was really serious it would start trying to tackle the complete imbalance of images in the media! That would make the biggest difference.

Mamie Wed 30-May-12 10:03:03

What do people think about the news reports today into body image and self-esteem? Whilst I can see the value of discussion about this in the curriculum for Personal and Social Education, I am not sure that schools can do much to change things in the face of relentless media pressure to be thin and beautiful.