Husband’s pain

Sciatica is very painful and there’s a lot of good advice on here for you.
It’s only human to feel envy of others now and then, just do your best for him, as he would hopefully do for you.

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* Lovely, although he is also pretty lively 😂

I wondered about the lively….😁

Homeopathy, acupuncture. Craniosacral, and other therapies are all good for sciatica (although youhave to pay for them). No reason for him to suffer from this debilitating condition. Sometimes conventional medicine just doesn’t have the answer.

All the above advice is worth trying but may I also mention reflexology. It helped me . Worth a try . Best wishes

Acupuncture worked for me too. Worth a try!

My husband is in almost constant pain as he got to hospital about 3 years ago for back surgery and his BP was too high for them to operate. He was all gowned up and in bed! So he still has all that plus he then had a major stroke in Nov 24 and is now wheelchair bound with only one working arm and leg!
I do know how you feel though. I care 24/7 and rarely get out alone. I am just off to do aqua aerobics for an hour and have not been for about a year! I am determined to get there today.
Best wishes to you both.

Acupunture with the right person can be very helpful.

Sorry you are expereincing this.

Correction - Kneel on

I had very painful sciatica and I had acupuncture which sorted it out. About 6 - 8 sessions. Also now when I get twinges I follow the acupuncturist’s advice and lie on the floor and curl up in a ball shape and for the second exercise I knee in all fours and gently stretch out one leg behind me, then do the same with the other leg.

I make sure I am by the settee to help me hold onto the seat to pull myself up.

Completely understand. Please, take time to look after yourself X

* Lovely, although he is also pretty lively 😂

Sciatica is extremely painful and all consuming. I've suffered occasionally and I'm sure that posture has a lot to do with it. I usually get relief from pulling my stomach in as far back to my spine as is possible, and pull up my pelvic floor, remembering to breathe in the process. Failing that, acupuncture from the lively Chinaman in town.

I sympathise - with you and your husband.

My late partner had dreadful sciatica - surgery was never an option.

It's draining for both of you.

I bought, from Amazon, a couple of those heat-pads that you can 'velcro' on to the lower back - either heated up via microwaving, or chilled in the freezer for a while. They certainly helped, quite a lot in fact.

He also found a tens machine helped.

Are they going to offer him nerve-blocking injections?

I understand how you feel, having to watch someone suffer and be part of their care, is very isolating.

Have you tried any online support groups? It really helps to talk to other people in the same situation...

Don't be hard on yourself; it can be very stressful looking after a spouse with a disability or illness. It's normal to feel a little resentfulness, but important that it is not expressed to our loved one.

Can you find some ways to still do things that give you joy, even though you can't do them with your partner? For instance, my DH cannot ski any more, but certainly is accepting of me going with other family or friends.