Black Dogs 29

Hi all
SweetPeaSue- yes I am anxious although trying hard not to be.
The 24/7 AF for the last 3 years has damaged my heart so it’s a bit of a double whammy. Will see how it goes .
Glad you like the picture- it’s a tunnel made of very strong cardboard and is for scratching . They like it now but were a bit wary at first.
Fluffball cuddles must be so soothing. It’s so nice cuddling willing animals.
Good you feel happier at Book Club- it was worth persevering.
Your DH chest pain sounds totally different from his angina pain- I do hope the injections help him.
HVDY- yes I picked up the diuretics this morning. The other meds I couldn’t get as the ones they had had maize starch in them and I get a horrible rash from that.So hopefully the Consultant will give me a prescription for a liquid form of the drug. It’s the combo of Af and HF that is not good.
The colposcopy result is a worry for you even though you,ve had it before doesn’t make it any less worrisome. Hope the treatment has improved since last time.
Lucky old Madagascar man. Although he’s probably taken good care of himself . A lady picking up meds in the pharmacy today who looked about 105 said to the assistant she wasn’t on any medication- luck of the draw eh.
Yuki was so scared at the vets he shook like a leaf - even his ears!! They yowled all the way there but shut up on the way home- luckily only 5 minutes away. They were good in with the vet though. They walked into their carry things like Jaffa- don’t know whether they will next time😻
Doodle- I,m sure your Art work is lovely. Everyone has their own style and that’s what makes it so interesting.Even if you are all doing the same thing they will all be so different.Wish I still had the enthusiasm but it’s gone- still love photography though. But being with nice people is the best bit. I love my Art friends from years ago and we still meet up.
We had our DGD3 round last evening for a Chinese as she is babysitting DD 2 moggies while they are on holiday
.She,ll come again on Sunday for a roast with her boyfriend who is staying home to look after their little cat.
EllieAnne- if your husband can still do the stairs it would be easier and cheaper to just put another rail on the opposite side.
It’s amazing how much easier it is to go upstairs with a rail both sides. My sister had one installed when she was really ill and it’s brilliant.
He’s not good at taking your feelings into consideration is he.
You must have been fuming not to mention embarrassed. He must have a very thick skin.
PurplePixie.- you’re probably right . Depression is so debilitating and it colours every aspect of your life.
Not having money worries is not to be sneezed at although you pay a high price for that security.
Do you go on holiday or have days out together?
Wyllow- yes Yuki takes mouse sitting very seriously. He always has a little worried face but actually loves to play.
I am scared of the HF even though I knew one day it might be so. Thank you for coming on my journey with me.
P sounds great- a brave and kind lady.Hope you re able to get out together for a couple of trips.
The leg mystery has been solved! Good job the inserts fit your Skechers- good excuse to get a new pair!
Yes take time with your letter- no need to rush it as it’s so important.
Hope you, e had a lovely gardening day. At least now the soil is easier to dig into after the rain.
We,ve had Love in a mist seed itself in ours - it’s so pretty.

Love to all and take care of yourselvesx

He finds coming down a bit difficult first thing in the morning but can manage ok after that.
Had an email today reducing the price a bit. !

EllieAnne Does your husband find it difficult to get up and down stairs? Making an appointment without mentioning it to you was rude. I bet you felt embarrassed when the man showed up.

SweetpeaSue I hope the injections will help your husband. He must get fed-up with it all. Yes, Madagascar Man is very lucky. He's 83.

Doodle I bet your artwork is good. So long as you enjoy going, that's the main thing. It poured with rain here, too - DH and I were out, looking at fence panels (we know how to live ).

Wyllow Day Centre Man is 83, has always walked a lot. He goes bird-watching. He went to Costa Rica last year (he's not short of money). Good luck to him. Glad your orthopaedic appointment went so well. I think most people have got one leg shorter than the other. Good job you went and discovered what the problem really is. When will the insoles be ready?

Not going out today - washing, vacuuming, etc., later (how exciting), then LG will be here at 5 (parents going out for a meal) for dinner, play and bath. Hope everyone manages to have a decent day x

I thought it might well feel that that, HVDY - the vinegar effect- being where it is and delicate tissue.
I can only offer the hopeful comfort that it the procedures are a lot better now than it used to be that long ago!

Some people seem immune to putting on weight like that bloke at the day centre. Has he always done loads of exercise or a job that involves a lot of strength/movement lifelong?

DH was so selfish and well out of order, Ellie Anne. Sounds like he was trying to shove it off for you to arrange. Well, dont, unless you think its a good long term move yourself.🤬

I hope you still met your friend at lunchtime. Is this a church contact?

Yes, 5 to 6 is a very nice number, Sweetpeasue. Ideal really. I so hope the injections help DH so he feels he can do bits and bobs that make him feel he can still be sort of useful and things meaningful....... or is he very depressed - does he potter with art of fixing things at all these days?

It’s the doing and being with others with the art that counts, Doodle, tho…well, ……it’s extra nice when something works out well.

Well today was an amazing visit to the orthotics. For a start, it was nearly 50 mins and not rushed at all. But this was the big shock. He measured my legs properly and exactly for the first time ever nearly exactly 2cm, but..get this….*the hurty leg was actually longer not shorter*

The past inserts I had made a long time ago basically were actually lower but with a corrective twist for the foot. It was me assuming it was the sorter leg.

So the longer leg has the problems with knee foot and lower back as - you can imagine - lifelong its sort of twisted to be shorter. So then we did the squishing foot into the pink sponge to make inserts for both feet and he is ordering shoe thingies and it’s fine for all my Sketchers lace ups (relief). Well what a true up for the books -

As I have been making things worse with the temporary leg raiser ….in the longer leg.

Duh.

My fault for assuming from the start the hurty leg must be shorter, and past orthotics people not giving me all the information I needed.

Then gym, Costa, attempts to tidy, and meeting where I said too much as usual which I do when I get too involved. Sigh. But the chair is good at shutting me up.

I have done a first draft of letter to Safeguarding, will NOT rush it as it’s a key thing and telling them some things they don’t want to hear.

I havent forgotten the Live for the day Scaredycat. Tomorrow the cleaner comes and makes everything nice and I just want to get some bedding plants in as…unbelievably - no rain tomorrow! And thankfully my gardeners arm is mostly better so got a date.

Doodle Yes, you're right about the smaller number of people being easier in book class. I believe DHs injections will be steroid ( is that cortisone?) Rheumatologist also said he might need one in the chest as he believes his constant chest pain( angina is separate) could be muscular, so may need injection in there. Im losing count of all DHs add on health problems.
Glad you are still going to art - I don't know what 'successful' means in the art world . Ive dont 'get' some modern art. I bet your painting is better than you think. In any case its nice for you to see your friends. We've just had on and off light showers here today.Glad you dodged the downpour.

Wyllow I hope your psychologist gives sensible advice to the safeguarding people that they take appropriate action on your behalf. How nice to meet up with P. Sounds like you can support each other.

Sweetpeasue I’m glad book club is easier. You can get to know a small number easier and it’s less daunting. Glad you persevered. Is the guided injection for your Dh cortisone or something to ease the pain?
Ellie Anne that’s dreadful. Very rude of your Dh not to discuss with you first and the attitude to the poor salesman. I know they are very expensive. Maybe the cost will be enough to put your Dh off the idea. Does he have a problem with the stairs?
HVDY that procedure sounds painful. Hope this time it’s much more comfortable. Yes a good job you had things checked out. The quicker identified the easier it is to take appropriate action.
I’ve been to art today. Not very successful but I then went to collect my prescriptions and take some stuff to the charity shop. I just got back in the car before there was a terrible downpour .

Purplepixie depression is awful. It takes the joy out of life and brings you down. If you don’t want to start again and I can understand why, then you need to make the most of the life you have. I would encourage you to go to your GP and discuss what options are available. There are lots of different meds and courses for depression. Please try something.

Wyllow How was your hospital visit? Hope you had a good outcome with the fitted insoles being given.
Thanks,DHs neck a lot better today but he still has pain in neck/shoulders which Rheumatologist is sending him for ultrasound guided injections in, also ultrasound on chest. Yes Im finding book group less intimidating as the class has dwindled down to just 5 or 6- find it easier to contribute.
HVDY Id looked up the colposcopy procedure and it described the stinging sensation you mentioned. You'll be glad to get it over with but hopefully this time it wont be as bad with different people at different hospital.
Hope you enjoyed the day centre and company today. Madagascar man is very lucky indeed!
EllieAnne That must have been annoying- DH booking the appt without even talking to you about it. I wonder if he has thought it through. My past father in law had a stair lift he hardly ever used and it was a real pain trying to get rid of it when we had his house to sell. Can't remember how much he paid for it, though . I imagine you felt quite embarrassed by your husband's rudeness. Is your DH having a lot of problems climbing the stairs?
DoodleScaredycat Purplepixie
Hope youve all been OK today.x

So stressed. Dh decided a few days ago that he needs a stair lift. I don’t think he does but it’s not up to me. So he looks it up online and next thing they are phoning,
He informs me this morning that someone is coming this morning to give a quote. I had already arranged to meet a friend at lunchtime.
When the guy came just after 12 dh was eating lunch and watching bargain hunt as always so not best pleased.The salesman said he had said between 12and 1 but probably dh didn’t pick that up.Then dh told the poor man there was no point in him being here because he wasn’t going to commit to anything. Dh was really quite rude so I asked him in but explained that I had to go out as I hadn’t known he was coming.
Anyway he has left a quote and info but we will need to get other quotes.

I really don’t want it because I won’t use it and it will make using the stairs awkward and they will probably have to take away the rail so I will have nothing to hold on to.
The quote is for over £3000 by the way!

SweetpeaSue Thanks. It's a good job I went to the GP about my bladder, and good that she examined me, or I wouldn't have known anything was wrong. Can't blame Fluffball for not wanting to go out in the rain. Glad the Ibuprofen etc is helping your DH.

Doodle Thanks. Your operation sounds straightforward enough. Hope it all goes well. You had a busy day yesterday. Much planned for today?

Wyllow3 When I had it done before, it felt like vinegar being poured on an open wound (horrible). I got an infection afterwards last time. This time will be at a different hospital, so I hope the outcome will be better. No swimming for a while. I'll be ok with everything else. Glad you had a good old chat with your friend P. Oh, yes, wash your feet . Do you paint your toenails? Hope the insoles will be beneficial.

Day centre place today - one man who sits in our group of about 8 will be back from his Saga holiday. He's been to Madagascar. He's very fit and slim, doesn't take any tablets and hasn't got any ailments. The rest of us there envy that so much. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

I wouldn’t be looking for another partner. I’ve started up from nothing on previous occasions and it’s really hard financially. Right now I don’t have any money worries but I’m just not happy. Maybe the depression is clouding everything for me.

When you say you don’t want to “start again” PurplePixie do you mean you don’t want to live alone, or you don’t want to look for another partner?

Oh, I’m sorry, Scaredycat, I’d forgotten the Myeloma. Yes, there is time to hope for a breakthrough as regards Crohn’s.

Thank you for sharing your diagnosis. I went and read up on it of course.

Yes it is scary. Its the difference between looking head and not thinking “how long” as it’s an unknown: but knowing there are further increased factors for issues but a lot of uncertainty around them except the other lesson - as healthy living as we can manage, as happy living as we can manage.

You are right about a harsh lesson in live for the day.

Why oh why do we find it so hard to do?

I intend to try and walk that love for the day with you and learn! At the same time, I want to share your journey.

Yuki looks extremely serious. Clearly an onerous task there.

Oh yes, “crabs”*Sweetpeasue*: I didn’t actually try as a girl cos I wasnt brave enough to do it in a skirt. Did you do the ironing? I’m so glad it was a Fluffball day ☺️. Oh, the stiffness in bits and bobs that dares to arrive because we have slept in slightly the wrong way! Is there anything at all exercise wise DH can do for his neck just to loosen it gently? Or maybe even better, massage by a good experienced person to loosen all very gently? Undo the knots?

How was the book group. I can recall when you didnt want to go and it was a fight to force yourself: Do you feel more at ease there these days?

HVDY. that really doesnt sound pleasant at all! I hope they give you good pain killers for the treatment against the cells. It will be very uncomfortable for some time…I hope it wont stop time with LG and gentle walks (I imagine no swimming for some time or am I wrong?

This morning I went to see P who is a long term on and ofd Quaker but turned up at our meeting as she is in sheltered housing right next door. We hit it of straight away at a meeting and both have had to deal with a lot of MH stuff - her family in her case - she is tiny and disabled by RA and has overwhelming family responsibilities and everyone is telling her to pull out but its not just guilt or duty that stops her tho they weigh heavy: I don’t think she knows anything else but her caring as a raison d'être. Anyway, she understands all the MrA stuff as I do the particular MH stuff in her family, but we also have a laugh and chat about this that and the other and I hope soon we can get out for outings, she has a lightweight wheelchair only 7 kilos.

I rung my MH people up for an update and to talk bit about the request to talk to my psychologist.
I will let safeguarding ask anything if she agrees,

but I will also tell them I think its a case of “does she take sugar”.

Its MrA’s head that needs fixing, not mine, I am capable of answering them,

and will most certainly not let them try and find a solution by focussing on me and expect after talking to a CPN today thats what my psychologist would say.

As in “well, back over to you - it was MrA that caused it” - "if you want to know about how someone can get through trauma, ring up the sexual assault crisis helplines":
"if they want to know how they can helpmeet personally, well ask me"

So yes, working through stuff

And bearing live for today in mind.

Tomorrow morning th long haul to the big hospital across town, and expensive job, but worth the wait for the tailored insoles if they can do them as its affecting foot knee, and lower back.

Note to self - wash feet.

Evening all. Managed to be out all day but dodged rain and got home dry. Church this morning then lunch out and shopping this afternoon.
HVDY sorry to hear about your results but sounds as though you’ve been there before and know what to expect. Hope it gets treated soon.
Sweetpeasue I think HVDY is right. Having seen the different stages myself it is quite likely aunt will settle. Try not to worry just take comfort in the fact that you’ve done so much for her and taken care of her well. You can’t change the situation now but you care which I’m sure she’s aware of somehow.
Scaredycat op should actually be straightforward. Open the old scar remove plate and sew up again. The break should have healed completely by now and removing the plate is just a precautionary matter in case it couses trouble in the future.
Funny us both being at the garden centre. At least I had the cake.
I’m sorry about your news about the heart failure. It is badly named. It means heart not working as well as it should. Hope the new meds help. Big hug 💕
Purplepixie how sad you don’t like your husband any more. You and Ellie Anne* have so much in common. Shame you can’t meet up and chat.
Wyllow would you be ok with Mr A attending once a month is he owned up to what he did or would you still not be happy?
If the answer is that you still wouldn’t be comfortable then tell them you don’t want him back. Would you accept a decision made solely by the safeguarding governing group?
Would you accept him back if he were told not to approach you or talk about you in any way?
Sorry loads of questions but I just wonder what you think.

HVDY Damn and bother about the need for colposcopy. Another intimate procedure for you. You must be fed up with it all - who'd be a woman eh. You'll be glad to get that over and done with. Sending you a big hug.
Hmm, Fluffball looks out of the door if its raining and just looks as if shes thinking ' and you want me to go out in that?'
DH has put Deep Heat on it . He thinks ibuprofen has helped quite a bit today.

PurplePixie What a difficult situation to be in. Do you ever go out or do things with your husband? EllieAnne understands what it is like, as she's got a similar relationship.

Wyllow3 Good to chat with other Quaker members from other countries. DH's sister chats with church people from America quite often. You're very fit and flexible. I struggle to even get on and off the floor . The weather's been all over the place today - did you go out?

ScaredyCat Sorry about your diagnosis. It's really quite common as we age. Heart failure means that the heart isn't working as well as it should. My mum had it for 25 years. (she didn't die of that, by the way). I bet they've given you diuretics? Stage 2 isn't severe. Keep resting when you feel out of breath or tired. Yuki is so beautiful. I hoe both boys behave for the vet tomorrow. Will they get into a carrier easily? Jaffa simply walks into his.

SweetpeaSue Does Fluffball mind going out if it's windy or raining? I hope your husband's neck pain eases off. Would something like Voltarol help?

Had a message on the NHS app - abnormal cells found on my cervix, so I've got to have a colposcopy in 2 weeks - I had the same thing 25 years ago, and they treated the pre-cancerous cells there and then. Hope evryone has been ok x

Doodle Nice words to EllieAnne. I feel the same in that there are always plenty of people who like to talk but not everyone is the same. ( the wise old owl comes to mind).
Glad your son can help out by bringing you home after the op. I hope it makes a difference and it wont be too long before you have full use. Its amazing how much we use our hands and take them for granted.
*Wyllow Hope today went to plan and gave you time out from the Mr A worries. Its been very windy here with showers. You're really very ' bendy' arent you with all your yoga- am impressed with the headstand though doesnt it makes you a bit dizzy. Sorry ,read your description that its actually quite relaxing. I used to do handstands against the wall as a child ,then down the wall and into 'the crab'. Ha , those were the days.
Purplepixie It must be awful living like that. I wonder if your DH suspects , deepdown. When you say youve changed , I think we all do through the years , living through various experiences. I guess its learning to accept our partners changes but its no good , of course, if theres no love there any more. Your crafting must help a lot to keep things going but you must feel so sad deepdown.
Scardycat Im so sorry about your second stage heart failure and I can imagine you are quite anxious about it. You have such a good attitude to it and Live for the day and in the now - is something we all need to do really. Accepting that our bodies wont do what we want them to do can be hard. Im not sure what is happening with pharmacy's not being able to get so many medicines in but its a bit of a drag having to return for stuff. Aww your pic of Yuki with his little mouse company look very cute. Is that a cardboard box tunnel?
Ah you understand well about my aunt ,having your friend with same disease.
HVDY I take comfort in the comment you made about my aunt might settle a little when she enters a different stage of her illness. I can only hope so.
You must be glad to have that vag/ultrasound over with. Sometimes the anticipation beforehand can make things worse but I def think some are better and gentler than others. Hope the results come quickly for you.
Ive got a pile of ironing here building up - must do it before weather gets warm again.

Fluffball today. She was so cuddly. Then to book group this afternoon and went well. Poor DH could hardly move his neck this morning - he thinks he must have slept in bad position.

Hope everyone has had a reasonable day.love to all and those not mentioned.

Yuki in the tunnel babysitting

Hi All
SweetPeaSue- I really understand how you feel about your Aunt and her distress. To look back at her little face so upset would make anyone sad.But hopefully the staff are kind and will distract her once you,ve gone. I hope,she feels more settled soon . Maybe she,ll meet a friend in there . It has really helped my lovely friend.
Doodle Your Op sounds quite a complicated one. I do hope that it helps to make your wrist and hand work better afterwards. Glad you,ll have your Son around to help if needed.
Although my Sister is presently in remission I think that the Myeloma is a contributing factor towards this slow healing wound. And as you say leg wounds are slow to heal.
That’s funny. You were stuck in your Garden Centre because of the rain and I was stuck in my car outside ours for the same reason!! At least you had coffee and cake😀
HVDY- your friend sounds a character - she lives life to the full.Maybe she,ll change her ways a little after she sees her new GC- and maybe not!
Yes obviously my GGS isn’t aware of how serious his condition is yet. He starts Grammar school in September and is so excited about that. As you say it’s an awful thing to have lifelong but perhaps there will be a breakthrough treatment in his lifetime.
Sorry the scan was uncomfortable- fingers crossed for the results.
Ironing is so easy to ignore.
Wyllow- Home Bargains is like Aladdins Cave isn’t it. Hope you got some nice plants. We always go in without getting a trolley then DH has to go back out and get one- so many goodies in there.
That Zoom meeting sounded so good- lovely to chat with people from across the world.
It should have been a pretty straightforward thing to solve the problem of MrA. He behaved in the most inappropriate manner and shattered your confidence in those who you thought would defend you and discipline him in a convincing and decisive way. He really forfeited his place there with his actions but if he,d been truly and sincerely repentant and prepared to abide by their rulings perhaps you could have accepted that.
Don’t let that vain and selfish man spoil your enjoyment any more.

Well I went to see the consultant last evening and I have Stage 2 Heart Failure. It wasn’t a surprise although I did feel scared to actually hear the words. I know people can live a long time with it but I have already lived a long time so it’s a bit different.
I have a couple of new meds - the Pharmacy had run out so I have to get them tomorrow!! So it’s Live for the Day as usual and try not to dwell on it too much.
Tomorrow we have to take the boys to the Vet for the first time. It’s flea and worm treatment day- too much information eh!
Hope they are not to upset.
Love to all xx

I think my dh battles on and doesn’t see it the same way as me. Lots have happened in the past and it’s not just the depression with me that had changed me. He is ok after I’ve had “words” and that can last a few weeks but the love I had for him has gone. I keep busy with my crafts. Nobody would suspect there was anything wrong. I just don’t like him. I’m 74 and not about to start again.

(And a good dose of Corinthans 13:1)

I had a long sleep, and it was a slow start, and difficult to get out, but once I did it got better.
I went to Home Bargains in search of some cheap basic bedding plants, and then the one thing that is the best bit of my life atm - the gym, and the company there. Tonight there was a lovely Quaker Zoom, its an international one, and head straight in to joys and sorrows - one regular is losing her husband to cancer right now, others have: for some reason the hymn with two of my favourite verses popped into my head from school days
It will be familiar to some and I love the “thousand ages in thy sight” bit
www.hymnal.net/en/hymn/h/607

We ended up discussing quilting bees (the US contingent) so I told them of Knit and Natters, and of Mens Sheds. The word "natter" tickled them.

Thoughts on MrA - I’m continually being asked “what do I want”. Its simple at one level, and its faith related two, being the situation

*True remorse and owning what he did and feeling my pain” owning his pain that drove him to it, in front of others:

*A chance for me to actually believe it, to pardon, forgive.

Can he do that? I think I can put it forward, to others, but frankly, they would have to also believe there is a point in doing so. I can’t engage in it if it ends a slap int he face mentally and expectations from others that means he can come back whatever the outcome. And, again, what it does is suggest “it’s a problem between him and me”. Which it isnt, its a group responsibility,, an had it been regarded as such from the start, the outcome would have been different: ie, at the start, people confronting him with it and realising what he was actually like, instead of soft soaping him and de-facto left to deal with it. But then, had I not felt guilty and kicked up a real fuss from the start….

Any thoughts ideas on that welcome.

Its always good PurplePixie, if your body says “rest”, “withdraw”, and you can, to “hear and obey” I take my computer into my room my bed day or night: it doesnt always work to distract or enhance rest of course, but often it does.

No EllieAnne. MrA is a widower and has been for 3 years. But I happen to know he was unfaithful when he was married, and there have been other incidents. Your Mr Creepy does sound, just that. They expect women to make life “all right” for them, and of course if there is love and sharing its natural and fine but there has to be respect. I love the Scardeycat suggestions of the “oops I’m sorry with the tea”
As regards people asking after you, I think generally, unless you have a specific known illness:

its more likely to happened if you do engage with people they get to know you, which is hard for you.

I’m not generally comfortable with “darling” HVDY Unless it’s a regional commonplace, when it’s different.

But that woman saying it to me I would be fine. A women saying it in that context is different.

I love a good BBQ - having said that, I wouldn’t like neighbours who did it a lot and noisily. And it helps keep the midges away. Yes, I keep telling myself to get out on my bike! But I need company and the gym gives me that and I only have “one thing a day” energy. Well done on the aqua aerobics. We have them at the gym of course, I’m a friend of one who I’ve very much known for years.

I’m glad the scan didn’t take too long. Well done coping with the pain. I hope you dont have to wait too long for the results. Ironing can always wait. . It wont walk away. Just lurk…

Your brave GCS Scardeycat…I guess the only plus is that he is used to it..children somehow accept those routines…my DGD, L, of course has so much of that, but its all she knows. At our ages, your Sis’s wound will of course take longer to heal. She is very resilient, I bet she doesn’t complain a lot.

No, a headstand is very relaxing, its good to be upside down, there are ways of course of finding a way to lie with your body tilted down, deep breathing, etc etc, yoga teacher at work here, no rush to stand up of course, rest lying after. (Blood circulating to the head as we are usually upright or lying flat all the time is good for you - probably in the days everyday life had much more physical activity for all but the rich meant more bending down and so on.

I’m picturing you in the car waiting for the rain to stop. Garden centres these days can be a real pleasure, just watch those debit cards 😉.

Please please do let us know the results of the chat you have had with the cardiologist x

Oh Sweetpeasue, yes, really upsetting, as it makes you feel her pain but just brings helplessness. Especially trailing you to the door. Yet you know it’s better for her than being “deserted”. I wouldn’t know what is the best thing to say to help. HVDY has a point, sometimes a later stage of Alzheimers means less angst, but it can go so many ways.

Now, the hospital, Doodle. I’m very glad that you arranged your son to brig you home. But most of all, that the resetting improves what you can do with that arm.

Will you have to stay home, or be able to get out? Can you ask some people over for cuppas if you are stuck in? So you were stuck in the garden centre with the rain!

I’m glad it was one with coffee and cake. I expect there were other marooned people.

Thinking of absent BD's - nadateturbe never forgotten, and new from others , too. Psalm 22 followed by Pslam 23?

ScaredyCat My friend with the coils in her brain doesn't get bothered by it all - she had a brain haemorrhage 11 years ago and was in hospital for 4 months (I didn't know her then). She still smokes and drinks (pints of cider) and goes to every Nottingha Forest match, including the ones abroad. She's just been told her daughter is expecting her 1st baby, so you'd think she'd want to give up smoking and drinking, but no. Your poor GGS - it's good that the infusions help, but his condition is awful, and he'll likely have it all his life, unless a cure can be found. Your sister is having a rotten time of it. You're so caring of your family. I hope her wounds heal soon.

SweetpeaSue It's really tough to watch a loved one like that. I can only say I hope she settles down soon and goes into a different stage of Alzheimer's.

Doodle The scan was quite painful but didn't take long. The Radiologist said he'll send the results to the GP, but I don't know when I'll get to find out. Fancy having to have cake and coffee - what a shame .

DH out with Son1 for the evening. I intended to do the ironing, but then realised I can't be bothered x

Went to garden centre again today and got stuck there amid torrential rain. An absolute downpour for over an hour. Nothing to do but sit and have coffee and cake and wait for it to finish.

Ellie Anne you’re wrong. You do have something to offer even if you don’t say a word. Your presence. That is important. If people don’t turn up the group will close. Listening is important too. Some people are confident and like talking. Others listen and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Keep going and don’t put yourself down. Don’t forget “they also serve who only stand and wait”
Wyllow I hope you managed to get across to Mr A the wrong choices he has made. Good you had a good session in the gym and I’m impressed with your headstand too.
Purplepixie I’m so sorry you’re in a loveless marriage. Does your Dh feel the same? Must be desperately hard for you both.
HVDY I hope your procedure this afternoon wasn’t uncomfortable. When will you get the results?
Hope your friend is ok. My friend has just had three stents put in her eye. Amazing what they can do these days.
Scaredycat yes I felt quite the lady with my fan. 🤣
Yes one of our sons will being me home and keep an eye on me. I think it will be a couple of weeks before the dressing comes off. In theory the bones have long healed and this will just be opening the old scar, removing the plate and stitching it back together again……in theory.
Do hope your sisters wound heals. Leg wounds can be very difficult to heal.
Sweetpeasue I wouldn’t have wanted the Royal Box. It has a somewhat oblique view and has a light rack in front of it. I haven’t been to many plays either. It was ok but it made a day out.