Breast cancer and family

Yesterday I had my MRI and was scared to death, got my results and they were better than expcted. And I was so happy to share my results with the people who supported me I didnt want to tell my sister. But I did and I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with her insensitive "positivity" at all. I think she got the messag, she actually said in an email before my test to "have fun". I just need to make sure I don't take it personally, she has her own deamons and I need to let it go.

I know you are the one that is ill but it does sound like she is finding it difficult to deal with. You are her sister and she loves you and she may have felt overwhelmed with her friend being ill and is now anticipating this happening to you I would send her an email telling her you need her sistership and just open up lines of communication with her.

I'm sorry it is so upsetting for you on top of what you are already having to cope with

Mandrake, I think you have nailed it but the hard part is trying to find a way to tell her without making her angry or hurt. I have written so many draft emails but unable to send any of them. And ultimately I feel quite hurt by her behavior it just comes off as ice queenesque. Thankfully my other sister who is normally distant has come to my rescue, perhaps I should be geatful for that.

Maybe a bit of both? She might not be able to deal with it, she might be scared, but she shouldn't be unloading issues on you right now. Maybe you need to tell her that with your health journey you can't handle dealing with her issues right now? Not in those words.