Black dog gang 2..

Thank you x

After listening to them both I think my two granddaughters
will join their brother in the same city .

What is it with brothers , younger granddaughter is thrilled her sister is coming back to Wales, brother said ‘ I won’t be able to spend much time in the Cornish coves if you move ‘,
I sent him a text and suggested he buy a tent ?

Oh Annie that would be wonderful. If they decide to you can spend hours looking at Rightmove for buying/renting and imagining what it will be like to have them nearer to you. Please keep us informed.

I like ironing! You already knew I was weird . That big pile of crumpled clothes which turn into a beautiful pile of neat ironed clothes while listening to something good on the radio.

How wonderful Annie your DGD considering moving back to Wales...

I don’t iron either, I try and hang stuff to dry so they flatten themselves, and I tumble dry all sheets and towels so they are nice and smooth.

I play killer Words with Friends (Scrabble by another name) it’s good to keep the brain working and also to keep mind off things...

Oh annie that is good news about your DGD. I hope they do move back ?

Good morning all x

Chewie we will listen if you want to share x

Salsa. a confession, I don’t iron, don’t have an iron, I just decided one day , no more ironing so I don’t, tumble dryer useful. I live alone so no problem. Curtains are ironed by a very nice ‘ironing lady’.

Elvive hope this question isn’t offensive, are you Lily ?

nanny Killer Sudoku is little like Sudoku but not boring as is Sudoku.

Elder granddaughter face timed me this morning, she and her partner are thinking of moving from Cornwall back to
Wales later this year. She like her mother is a ray of sunshine, lights up a room.

Millie I believe its called 'survivor guilt' and is absolutely normal. It is still very raw so be kind to yourself. All you can do at the moment is just accept it and keep on keeping on. xx

Nany crying is good. Yes it is! When I was very seriously ill I couldn't feel any emotion, good or bad at all. My consultant said that if I won the lottery it wouldn't make any difference. I am now grateful when I cry because it reminds me that things have been worse.

I think that the war deaths may have been slightly easier to cope with because people would not have felt quite so alone and would know that their men had died for a good reason. Of course I could be so wrong but when I think of major tragedies and how families get together as support groups I think that may help them cope better than those of us who feel so alone with our loss. Yes, of course I share mine with family and friends but it is not quite the same. Musing really not sure.

Salsa small steps, many people hate ironing amyway.

Chew can we help or would be prefer not to talk about it?

We went to a concert last night and I feel very drained today. Trying to motivate to get out into the garden as it is going to rain for the next few days.

have sent pm chew

Struggling today.

night joce hope tomorrow is clearer head day x

Anniebach....... I ironed 3 cushion covers, a pair of trousers and a blouse. Only about 40 more items to do! Stuff it, most of it is summer stuff, which I can leave for now.

Evening all, Annie, do hope you are all having a good night
Just wanted to wish you all a good nights sleep ?

what is killer sudoku? everytime you win a grid you kill someone..who would be first lol...seriously i cannot play that game at all

nanny it will get easier but takes time x

Doodle as usual, playing Killer Sudoku

When I was watching the D Day commemorations yesterday, the footage of that day, I was in tears , so many young men same ages as my grandchildren, how did mothers get through it, the waiting, the fear, and then seeing the few from that day laying wreaths yesterday.

Those that came home just went back to work, they must have been so badly affected .

yes annie i cry everyday i,m here

What are you doing tonight annie. We’ve just watched Dunkirk (the film) on BBC catch-up. It made me feel very sad. All those young men. Seems strange now to see those old men in wheelchairs or walking sticks with all their medals. They can’t forget all their lost comrades. They were very brave.

milly take things as they come, sad thoughts, happy thoughts, it’s all part of working through grief, but please no more doubting yourself.

Any time you want to talk we will all listen x

nanny you hate arriving back home, is this because of you loss ?

doodle hugs

salsa did you put off the ironing ?

Joce thinking of you x

Annie thank you for your kind words. I seem to have found it hard to grieve. Because she went so suddenly I never had time to say good bye and I think I have just tried to put it all to the back of my mind and it has all crowded in. Perhaps now is the time I should start to remember the good times.

hello all i,m back from a couple of days with my very sassy GD. all was well until i pulled into my road and then the feelings of hating being here returned. Milly i,m sorry for your loss and I only hope things begin to get better for you. Salsa i wish we could ping bullies into the future to see what damage they do. Hi anniehow are you today xxx

Thank you salsa yes he does have a friend or two but he is the strong one not them. They have problems of their own and he usually stands up for them too. I think he copes quite well but I just wish he and mum and dad could have some peace for a bit.
Thinking about what I’ve just written I think that applies to us all really. Whatever is going on we just want our minds to not keep going over it all the time and just have some peace. Wishing you all a good weekend ?

milly only March, you are grieving , you question yourself
‘Did I do enough’, this is one of the most asked questions when grieving.

You say ‘after nearly 11 years of caring I gave up’, should that not be ‘after nearly 11 years of caring and her condition getting worse I could no longer cope ‘ ?

Please be kind to yourself, grief brings so many thoughts of self doubt, you did all you could do, there is no more to give
when we have done all we can .

It will take time, but please stop those questions, you are not being fair or kind to your self .

All here will listen so do share your feelings when you need to x

The black dog has been on my back for the last few weeks and today I really just sat and cried. Since Sis died so suddenly in March I hadn't really felt right and the breathlessness that always accompanies it has been back again. I have been doing the relaxation that has helped before but the last few weeks I have been plagued with thoughts of "did I do enough" "should I have tried harder with her" I knew she wasn't really happy in the home but after nearly 11 years caring and her just getting worse and worse I gave up. Anyway feel better now I have written it down. DH was so supportive then and is now but the thoughts still crowd in.

Today is a strange one.... it's pouring with rain (again), grey and dismal. I'm not venturing out. I've got lots of ironing to be done.... but I keep putting it off

Doodle ... I understand your concerns. Does your GS have friends who will back him up, boost his confidence, etc? Bullies tend to single someone out shy people, and anyone who is on their own.

Hello all hope every one is having a good day.. my head is goodness know where today errr..