Is husband doing too much?

I think it annoys my husband too Jalima if I mention age. Men are so proud. My husband slipped on a ladder whilst trimming branches. He was fine but I do get concerned about what he will do when I am out But after reading this post I will leave him be.

DH gets very cross with me if I remind him of his age - he's often to be found digging the garden, chopping branches etc (at present he's out in the gale vacuuming up leaves) and he makes your DH sound like a spring chicken annep!

thank you all!

Goodness I feel so silly now but you've put my mind at rest everyone.?

annep, my 68 yr old husband is currently dismantling all the fitted furniture in our bedroom (solid wood) carting it downstairs through the house into the front garden ready for himself to take to the tip.

annep My DH is 73,. Most days he works on the house and garden, chops wood etc. His arthritis is a little troublesome at times, but he will not stop. Better that than sitting, staring at the television all day. Let your DH do what he feels he can. Only rule I have is that he finishes by 4o'clock so we can have some time together

Paddyann it must be difficult for you to not worry. But my dad always told my mum he preferred to be happy doing what he enjoyed. Its good that he has joined a gym, much more sensible. And yes, better than sitting at the computer.*Farmor*.
Gillybob I'm sorry to hear your circumstances. It sounds like a bit of a nightmare. I do hope you manage to find some way to change things because it sounds like you have no life at the minute.

It's tricky when the weather is unseasonably warm to judge whether someone is over exerting themselves.

DH was really ill earlier this year but has gradually recovered to his normal fitness for his age. I worry when he huffs and puffs and sinks into a chair looking hot and bothered but I have to tell myself he's been working outside sawing logs, trimming hedges etc., so it's to be expected.

Plus the fact he's from Yorkshire and they don't do heat!

I can sympathise/empathise with you annep and paddyann. My DH is 67 and is currently working a 14-16 hour day, 7 day week in a very physical job role. He had a stroke in March and has several other serious medical conditions . He does it because he has to (we have contracts to fulfill ) not because he is trying to prove a point or to be clever . I have never wished harder for a lottery win or a minor miracle that will enable him/us to stop and get off this horrible treadmill of life.

On Wednesday my 68 year old husband was up a ladder with a chainsaw cutting the top off a too -high hedge. I was at the bottom assisting. He’s not particularly fit but does quite a lot in the garden when he’s in the humour. I’d prefer he was sweating sawing wood than sitting at computer - healthier too.

I understand where you're coming from,after my OH had heart attacks he insisted on going back to work within 3 weeks,then he was up a ladder trimming trees that were 15 feet high.I was worried sick .HE said he felt invincible because he had come through 3 heart attacks (2 he didn't realise he'd had until no 3) and felt well.That only lasted for a few months when he started to stress about things and joined a gym so he didn't do too much.
He hasn't changed, he does things a man half his age would find hard work but says its all good for his heart ! If your OH feels well and doesn't get stress pains etc I'd let him get on with it,he knows his body best

Oh good, thanks everyone. A bit out of breath with effort but perfectly ok. On pills for high blood pressure for years but under control.. I'm such a worrier. Lot of heart disease in my family and I have no idea of what's normal. But I can relax now. thanks.

ps I am older than your DH

It was unseasonably warm this week.
I dressed for autumn, walked uphill and felt uncomfortably hot and was 'glowing'.

I think its advised to exercise until breathless.
Not that I'm any expert on the matter.

I would say that it is probably good for him. I agree with J52

Unless he has underlying health issues, it sounds like ok exercise.
My DH same age with no health issues does high cardiac exercise for at least an hour, 5 days a week. Keeps him fit.

I can't see the problem, it's unseasonably warm and he was exerting himself so it's highly probable he'd be sweating. Was he breathless? or feel light headed? If not then his reaction was normal.