Stroke

So sorry to hear your news, gilly. It's a cruel blow.

I agree with Luckygirl about filing for bankruptcy if you can see no way ahead where the business is concerned. Once the stroke diagnosis/rehab machine gets into gear you will have your hands full with your DH's treatment and recovery.

My best wishes

No advice, no experience just a huge hug and . Sometimes I just think that the strong people get far more than their share to cope with.

Oh, gillybob this must feel like a nightmare.
Like many on here I've kept up with the story of your business.
I've often wanted to say to you (one of my favourite mantras)
Don't rescue to the extent where you have to be rescued.
I think you know in your heart that this time has come.
I've been in situations, not as bad as yours, where I've thought: if I'm not there it's all going to fall apart. But you know what, it doesn't. Other people will step in and go the extra mile to help, just as you would if the tables were reversed.
If you want to be at the hospital, you be there.
I hope I haven't offended, my thoughts are well intended towards you and your husband.

So so sorry to hear. Yes the Stroke Association is a fabulous support org. Bonne chance x

gillybob I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I hope he is getting some proper care now. As Kittylester says the Stroke association can be a great source of support and advice.

yes you have to put your work worries to one side - Know that is easier said than done - is there someone on the staff who could act up as temporary manager? Are there benefits you'd be entitled to? Best wishes to you both.

This is awful news - your poor OH - and you must be so very worried.

Please please file for bankruptcy and get this business off your backs. It is making you both so ill. I know there are employees to consider, but you both matter too. Sorry to be so blunt, but this is a warning shot across the bows. Neither of you can continue at this pace.

I do hope the scans show something that can be treated to prevent further trouble. I am thinking of you both.

Actually Maw I do agree with what you’re saying. I was only thinking of gilly shouldering the burden in the very short term (rest of week) to take the strain off her husband and to keep things ticking over. I remember her saying the business was their only means of income being self employed.

Gillybob just as life could not get much worse, it does.
I am so sorry to hear your news.
On the plus side, this “warning” if followed by the right medication may remain just that. Was it a clot or a bleed?
I hate to sound so prosaic and I am in no way dismissing your business commitments but you and the family must sit down together and face the possible ways forward.
It is not crossing bridges until you come to them to have a plan, even if it is not ideal and it is better to have a plan you have thought out than to be plunged into an even worse crisis. There is good advice regarding recovery from strokes and help you can get but do also speak to someone with accounting or business experience too to see what your way forward there might be.
Dare I say do NOT attempt to shoulder this one alone, your own health would inevitably suffer.
Wishing you a positive outcome

I’m afraid it’s over to you now gillybob. Take control. Tell your husband he must forget about the business for the next few days and that you will keep things going.

Take as much pressure off him as possible. Strokes can be very serious, as I expect you know. Be firm with him, it’s for the best in the long term.

Good luck.

Gillybob, I have just read this and feel so sorry to hear the news about your DH. Do you have family support nearby? I can only offer sympathy and prayers to you and DH. Do take care and accept all that is offered in this stressful time. {{{hugs}}}

So sorry you have this huge pressure gilly, please remember it’s important to think about yourself and your own health too. Is ann right and this is the final straw for your business? I know you won’t want to think about it right now. Hoping for a positive outcome from the consultants report. Sending love to you both.

Oh gillybob I am so sorry for you.
What an awful thing to happen especially when you were away. You really should have got him to hospital but I suspect you know that yourself.
Worrying about the business is the last thing you need.
You are going to have to sit down with him and discuss just getting rid of it.
I'm sorry but you may have no choice, can you run it on your own? If not you have your answer,
Isn't life so unfair just when you had the new baby to look forward to, this happens?

gillybob so sorry to read this. All I can offer is to say that your husband has been very lucky so far. Perhaps good news (comparatively speaking) comes out of the consultant appointment. You have to keep your wits about you - and you will.

Aww gillybob, life can be a bit rubbish at times but he will be in good hands now. Not much help but I do wish him a speedy recovery and do please look after yourself too.

Oh gilly, life's a bugger sometimes isn't it. I have no advice for you really just to say that I didn't want to read and run.

DS 1 had a stroke 10 years ago (aged 35) while living in Japan. He came home here after 6 months and got the most fantastic care and all types of support and investigations so I imagine your Dh will too.

I used a website called Different Strokes (which is for younger stroke survivor's) but try the Stroke Association too. And talk to us whenever you need too.

You must be feeling worried and scared but there will be lots of people along soon who can offer better advice.