rubylady 
. I think you can only be guided by the doctors and your instincts. His quality of life is the most important thing as you say. I'm sure you'll make the right decisions (((hugs)))
and (((hugs))) rubylady
You're a remarkably resilient lady, a brilliant mum and daughter. Keep asking the hospital team questions, and you could try helplines such as MacMillan and the Alzheimer's Society too.
I hope your father recovers quickly.
Take care of yourself too, x
Many of us on GN have been through and are going through difficult times with our parents. You sound like a wonderful daughter and Mum, I hope you are taking care of yourself too.
I hope your Dad recovers well from the operation and can soon leave hospital. Where will he go when he is discharged?
I send you hugs rubylady.
rubylady - this is a difficult situation for you. I think the only thing you can do is be guided by the medical team and discuss the situation with them, at length if necessary.
I don't know what LPA is but I think that you are your dad's main carer so it's very hard for you.
Having been very close to cancer and dementia in the last few years and having been the main carer on two occasions, I learnt to ask for support where ever I could find it.
This situation is potentially exhausting for you, so ask lots of questions, see what help is there and try to rest (as you are doing) when ever you can - lots of hugs, stay strong.
My dad has been diagnosed today (well, Wednesday) with cancer. We don't know the stage yet. He is being operated on on Friday and will follow with CT scan and further treatment. He has vascular dementia too. I am his LPA.
I just came on for some hugs as I have to stay strong for him and keep him going through this. I do have my son, as some of you know, and he has been great recently but teens only do so much although he has listened to my worries and concerns and made endless cups of tea.
I do have one concern. Does he go through months of treatment for the cancer only for the dementia to be worse at the end of the treatment? I am thinking more of his quality of life other than length now really, not knowing if this is the right thing or not but thinking how I would like it. I can and do talk to him but he says one thing one day and another another day. I only want to do what is best for him, obviously.
I am glad I have sorted Christmas out as we are back and forth to the hospital at the moment and resting up inbetween. (Been to bed last night and now back up). 
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