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The pecking order is arrived at by nurture and not birthright, methinks. You have done a wonderful job in compensating for your son's inadequacy. Don't know why you blame yourself initially but that's fine. I find your involvement admirable. Who said life should be easy, eh?!! Well done and keep up the good work.

I confess that I am getting really, well, almost fed up, with grandparents convincing themselves that whenever their adult children act badly it is their fault. I blame myself for it. I must have done something wrong.

Our adult children are grown up, have reached the age of reason and are entirely to blame for their own bad behaviour.

Should we blame the current war in Ukraine on President Putin's mother?

Nanaclare your son has behaved badly and continues to do so. It is NOT your fault. It is his, entirely and totally.

Spot on Oopsadaisy
Continue to love your granddaughter NanaClare and don't stress about your son, you have always done the right thing it seems.

You mean he is jealous of someone who has always been there for his daughter in his ( self imposed) absence.
He has some growing up to do.

Love and attachment isn't a finite rationed thing . The fact she's so attached to you doesn't affect how Attached she is to her Dad and new partner . I would have thought the more people who care for your DGD the better .

Your son didn’t want to be involved with his daughters upbringing but is now miffed that she is emotionally attached to you, her grandmother who has been in her life from the start….is that right?