I have always been a great reader throughout my life, and so any children with me get used to me having a coffee/book break. So at that time I would ask them if they wanted to choose a book that they could either read themselves or I would read to them. Part of that was to sort of put sitting down and reading quietly into the options. So I was quite prepared to play noisy games, or with things that I did not really enjoy, but it would be interfaced with the reading breaks. That way if I was asked to do something, the reply would be next play time we will, and sticking to it, however hard it could be, they soon learnt that neither begging, tantrums, or rudeness , would make me cancel the reading break. In the beginning it was cringing at times, with shouting or whining but it was worth it to both lay down the rules and then you can also use it to say, we have played with your game and now it is my time to read. The most important lesson learned is give and take, which they will need to learn throughout life I would say. Also she will be learning that not everyone behaves in the same way, and that there is no overall rule that everyone follows. Another possible thing is if you have two rooms, you could choose one to be the playing noisy or other games, but actually go into another room to sit and read, so that it also shows her simply that you are now in the reading room or whatever. The games she enjoys will no doubt change over time, but the sharing of time and give and take will still be important at whatever stage she is at. Good luck and hope she soon begins to understand that your home your rules. Staying the person you actually are is important, as even if she does not like what you do for the moment, she does learn that this is you and you can be trusted to remain the same whatever else changes.
