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Grandchild hits me and excludes me

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Tomba Fri 04-Jul-25 20:22:36

Mum is pregnant and has terrible sickness [HG] and so I have been a lot more involved and trying to keep pressure off Mum.

Judy54 Fri 04-Jul-25 17:04:18

Difficult situation but I agree a child should not be made to hug or kiss. When I was a Child I did not like having to do this with my Parents older Aunt and Uncles who we saw infrequently and did not really know them. It stressed me out!

ginny Fri 04-Jul-25 17:02:29

I agree kissing and hugging is not something that should be insisted on.
However surely the child should be calmly told that their behaviour is not acceptable.

RosieandherMaw Fri 04-Jul-25 16:59:59

My GC used to hug me round the knees - until they grew taller and now I have to stand on a box to hug eldest GS!
However the littlest two (6 and 3) have gone through a phase of “No duddles !” (Cuddles) and give me high fives - lethal, but I pin a smile on.
It’s only ever a phase so even if you have to be content with a wave and a smile, this too shall pass.

Shelflife Fri 04-Jul-25 16:58:05

Ignore it will pass! However his / her parents should not insist on kissing!!!!

Whitewavemark2 Fri 04-Jul-25 16:46:21

Tbh I wouldn’t worry over much, and certainly not react to his/her behaviour.

Play it cool, it will soon pass.

BlueBelle Fri 04-Jul-25 16:37:08

cornergran Tomba has carefully not mention if it’s a boy or girl grandchild I wonder why you ve presumed it’s a boy
Isn’t it interesting that violence and boys go together so completely in some peoples minds
To Tomba I would wait and see, little ones can change like the wind just carry on doing what you are doing stay consistent don’t force any kisses or hand holding etc as you are already doing and hopefully it will all change Does the little one interact with playing with you what about a little toy now and then something they will look forward to finding when they come ( nothing big though)

cornergran Fri 04-Jul-25 16:15:09

Saying goodbye and kissing someone are two different things. He could be encouraged to acknowledge you’re leaving as good manners without insisting he kiss you. Has anything changed at home recently? Does he go to nursery? It sounds as if he’s reacting to something which may have nothing to do with you.

keepingquiet Fri 04-Jul-25 16:12:57

I agree children shouldn't be forced to kiss people, they need to learn respect for theirs and other people's bodies.
Having sad that my GKs are very huggy though it isn't forced.

Hitting and scratching are just another side to the same coin- what do parents say about this?

Also why should the child be jealous? You don't give a reason for thinking this.

MayBee70 Fri 04-Jul-25 15:53:26

Parents shouldn’t make a child kiss someone. I don’t think I’ve ever kissed or been kissed by my grandchildren ( but then I’m not a huggy kissy person anyway)

woodenspoon Fri 04-Jul-25 15:37:40

Is there a new baby in the house? My little grandson went through a phase like this when his sister was born. Lasted about six months. He soon grew out of it.

Tomba Fri 04-Jul-25 15:14:35

Have a good relationship with Mum and normally with 3 yr old grandchild but has started shouting at me aggressively and occasionally hitting or scratching me with a look of hate on their face. While out together alone have few problems. Is it jealousy? Does not want to kiss or hug goodbye and I would not with to force this but parents say child should say/kiss goodbye.