Gransnet is for grandparents. Let's keep it that way

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I like the different approaches.
Men don't often choose to post here but I have no problem with it.

Sorry Skydancer, I disagree- it is for all of us male and female who are over sixty'ish.

Sorry no. Just because someone is a grandparent doesn't make their opinion any more valid (or more interesting) than anyone else.

I like reading about all the different lifestyles and experiences everyone has had too.

Skydancer

I enjoy GN. I have found very helpful advice on here because, in the main, it is used by people roughly the same as myself. I am a grandparent and I am old. I don't want to read posts from young people or, dare I say it, men actually. I just want to read posts from other grans. Anyone else feel the same?

If you read the 'About Us' it states:

Our forums cover a wide range of topics - not just grandparenting. In other words, it doesn't matter in the slightest whether you have grandchildren or not!

It also states the age group is generally 50+

saltnshake

I am old, I am a granny and I disagree with you Skydancer. Is this site only to be for women above a certain age and women who have children? I know of grannies in their thirties and I know of childless women in their eighties, why should either group be stopped from joining us? Men have points of view that are worth listening to as well. We shouldn't limit those who wish to join us.

Well put, saltnshake

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But it seems not everyone agrees about the age limit.

You are the epitome of why people view older people in a different light.
Thank god most of us aren’t.

I also disagree, yes the rambling mother in law threads are annoying but they are relatively rare.

We have our lovely gentleman Michael who starts the good morning thread, he will always be welcome.

Unfortunately we had a male Antipodean poster who could cross a few boundaries, there were two camps, some loved him others not so much.
I was in the latter!
He has sadly died now.

Finally there was another male poster who could cause a fight in an empty room, I think he was very much on the spectrum and really should not have had access to a keyboard!
He was barred.

There are few posters who are openly male on this forum, I often wonder how many are men masquerading as women.

I’m afraid I have to disagree, I’m happy to engage with anyone one here, irrespective of gender or age or whether they have grandchildren (or children) or not All are welcome

I do think that Gransnet is mostly a welcoming place. As long as people abide by the guidelines (which are fairly clear) everyone has as much right to be here as anyone else.

I disagree Skydancer. I particularly enjoy reading posts from younger people, their points of view add a valuable dimension to discussions on here. I value the opinions of younger members of my family, so why not on here?

Men’s contributions are welcome too, though few & far between.

Seems pretty unanimous that no one agrees with you Skydancer sorry bring on the grandads and younger grans (or not grans) just like the real world a good old mix up

Cossy

I’m afraid I have to disagree, I’m happy to engage with anyone one here, irrespective of gender or age or whether they have grandchildren (or children) or not All are welcome

Well said - and I agree! The only ones which do annoy me are the ones who've clearly just joined as a wind-up - but they're usually pretty easy to spot and swiftly dealt with.

Anyone should be able to join in . I’m almost sure, we had a ‘grandpa’ here , not so long ago. If so, make yourself known please 😂

I think it should be open to all irrespective of status or age so long as they conform to the guidelines. What I don’t like is younger people coming on solely to moan about their mothers in law.

I’m happy to hear from people of all ages and genders, younger people may find help with their older relatives or friends, grandparents or not.

There are all manner of subjects to be discussed on this forum, many of them unrelated to being a grandparent, and it would be pretty boring if that were to be some one dimensional defining factor of our existence and why we post here. I'm quite happy with male posters, as long as they are not of the mansplaining variety, feel the need to use the plural "ladies" when addressing us collectively, or feel the need to make sexist, risqué comments.

Surely anyone can join? I find it interesting to hear from all.
This has made me think 🤔 does anyone remember Bompa he always made me smile.

crazyH

Anyone should be able to join in . I’m almost sure, we had a ‘grandpa’ here , not so long ago. If so, make yourself known please 😂

We have a man who posts very regularly on the News and Politics forum. I've never seen him anywhere else, but then, I don't go very far from N & P, either.

I can't really see the point in restricting who could post

I dont like the idea of excluding Grans without grandchildren. Many of us have great nephews and nieces. And some of us lost children through child death.

Gransnet have said themselves that the site is for anyone.

kittylester

I wish we had more male posters and that some grans didn't say things like 'Good morning ladies'.

I don't mind the odd person asking us for our wise words but wouldn't like an influx of young people.

And, I don't mind people of grandparenting age but without the dgc.

Saves me the effort of writing1 I share this poster's feelings precisely.

I think GN should be for all people of a certain age whether they have GCs or not, but have to admit that I don't see that this site would benefit younger people, and tbh there are plenty of social forums for their age group and not so many for older people.
But if a younger person came on the site would be as friendly as per. There could be a specific question they want to ask about their own grandparents.

nonsmoker and what about those in their eighties and possibly nineties,. We have views too.

Yes MaizieD on the N & P , but I’m sure there was one who posted on the Relatiobship or the Estrangement Forum

I would love to hear from grandfathers, my OH isn't interested, when I asked why he just shrugged and said that it must be full of grandmas and one older woman telling him what to do is enough.