To betray or stay quiet

I would pass it on in the way Gagajo suggested in her post @ 12.34. I'd tell him you'll be doing so, so he has the opportunity to talk to mum and dad before hand.

I'd send it back to AC with a note: IDK what this is, GS sent. I'm always stupid to scammers, does this allow such?

It's a valid question.

I think I would explain to my grandchild that I had to tell his/her mum, it wasn’t negotiable.
Then leave it to them.
One of my daughters and I had a similar situation a few years ago, her daughter and her cousin, my grandchildren were found in their room watching something extremely inappropriate, they were about ten, we told them we were surprised and cross, and took away their laptops and phones.
We spent a long time wondering if we should tell my other daughter, they had already had a good telling off, but eventually we decided she had a right to know.
She didn’t seem particularly surprised or angry, which was definitely not the reaction I was expecting.
I think sometimes our generation are far more shocked than our children.

Stay quiet, that’s what I’d do.

It would depend what the content was.

I don't know what that app is but clearly not suitable for 9 year olds. Could you speak to his mother about it? I think an adult does need to know and check the device and safety settings just to be sure he is safe online.

I would absolutely forward the video over to my son. This isn’t you butting in, as the video was sent to you even if by accident. I would simply let your son know that your grandson asked you not to tell but as an adult you felt it was your responsibility to both of them to keep his parents in the loop.

Your grandson will get over it. I wouldn’t allow him the idea that it is okay that he can knowingly do the wrong thing and you will keep it from his parents. You don’t have to verbalize this beforehand, but this is something you can explain to him should he ask you why you told. “Granny cannot keep secrets from your parents like this.”

GagaJo

IF you have to pass it on, I wouldn't pass comment, just forward the video with a note such as, got this from grandson. For you to do what you feel is best.

this is perfect and non confrontational

IF you have to pass it on, I wouldn't pass comment, just forward the video with a note such as, got this from grandson. For you to do what you feel is best.

It depends. Was it illegal? Drug related? Criminal activity? Animal cruelty or human bullying? OR Andrew Tate misogyny stuff? Any of those, I'd pass it on.

If it was stupid (possibly offensive to adults but not to teenage boys) stuff, I'd leave it. I'm not sure of his age, but 15 year olds do / are involved with some seriously stupid sh*t (I speak as a teacher).

I’m surprised you even have to ask. I had a similar situation with one of the grandchildren. I spoke to my daughter immediately.

I would give him the chance to tell them himself, saying that if he didnt then you will have to.

Awful situation, if you dont tell and it comes out later you will be in trouble with the parents and if you tell them they will shoot the messenger.

This may not be as bad as you think, it could just be a video link that was being sent around his group of friends anf not one he had looked for himself.

What kind of video was sent?