Second grandchild too soon after first one ?

Notjustaprettyface isn't it just like when you have your second child? You worry no end through your pregnancy that you couldn't possibly love another baby like your firstborn. And then the baby arrives and you find that you can! My relationships are slightly different with all my grandchildren but I love them all dearly.

My daughter has four children. They are now 13, 11, 9 and 7. The eldest is a girl, the rest all boys. I love them all the same, as they are all individuals and all have their own little charms and idiosyncrasies.
I don't think you need to worry about developing relationships with your grandchildren it just happens. Relax and don't over think things. All will be well.

I think you will love the second grandchild just as much as soon as you see him/her.

My children are close together and mostly played well together. They are friends now as adults.

I hope this is how it works out for your grandchildren.

When I was expecting my second child, I felt I could never love another one the way I loved my first.
How daft I was to think that, of course I did, love expands round them all.
It will be the same with your grandchildren.

As I tell both my grandchildren, you are my favourite grand child. When they protest that cannot both be my favourite grandchild. I just tell them that it is perfectly possible.

I love everyone of my 9 GC and my 5 GGC your heart will expand to accommodate your new GC you can be sure. Each one will have a special place in your heart.

Tanith is right, don't worry each grandchild will be special to you.

I was really worried I couldn’t love my second child as I loved
my first child, when she was born I fell in love again

We don't have a set amount of love to go around, we have the capacity to grow it like flowers. More seeds, more flowers x

Like Anniebach, I worried that I would never be able to love my second child as much as I loved the first one.

Then someone very wise told me that "each child brings their own love with them".

And of course I did, and the next one too.
And all the grandchildren.
Each is different and each brought their own bundle of love.

It will be lovely, such small gap will mean they will be playmates and hopefully friends for life.

And as Calendargirl said - and all the wise posters on here.

I actually cried when I found I was pregnant again, rather soon, and my baby was only a year old. He was so lovely, a complete delight. How could another one have our undivided attention.

The answer is he couldn't but he was equally lovable and such a different personality.

As for the DGC. I am certainly closer to the ones I have most to do with, but I love them all and am very proud of them.
It will be just fine. You'll see,
Congratulations.

I agree with others. Love is infinite, you’ll always have plenty to go round. ❤️

A grandchild fills a space in your heart you didn’t know was empty.

My son and his partner have two children born very close together. It does present some issues - there seems to be a lot more rivalry, and the younger one naturally was less advanced than the older one and that affected his confidence. Touch wood, those issues seem to be less prevalent now.

As to whether it's possible to love each grandchild the same or whether it's probable that you will secretly have one that you favour, I suppose there is no hard and fast answer for everyone. For me, I love both my grandchildren the same.

I have identical twin Granddaughters, I love them both just as much.
People have sometimes surprised me by asking if there is a favourite, I tell them, they are both my favourites!!!!
Then came along Grandson and he’s joined my favourites as well.

My GM has 43 GC (you read that correctly; she and my GF had 10 children). Grandma never indicated that she thought there were too many. She was always thrilled to see all of them and often stayed with the families when the new babies were born, to help the mothers and families. Sadly, Grandma now has Alzheimer's disease and lives in a care facility. It's unlikely she would recognize most of her GC now as her disease is progressing.

Congratulations on your growing family, Notjustaprettyface! And, no worries, it never gets old.

If you do find yourself favoring one over the other, you may not be able to help that feeling. But as long as you don't show any favoritism/treat both GC the same, IMO, it will all be ok.

Agnurse, so sorry about your GM's Alzheimer's and how far it has progressed. Sounds like she was a delightful lady!

My second child was born (full term) just eleven months after my eldest. At school, for one month each year they were the 'same age). Fortunately, they were in different school year. Two years later along (planned) came No. 3.
When a couple of years later I told my parents I was expecting twins my lovely Mum actually said 'Oh , I am so sorry sorry, darling'. One of my neightbours (with just one child) came over so bad at the news that I had to help her to sit down!!
So, five children born less than 5 1/2 years apart. Family completed when a long-term foster baby arrive, giving us six chldren with just over seven years between them all.
It was wonderful - life was tough in other ways - particularly financially and then healthwise - but never for one second regretted my lovely large close-in-age family.
And now they are in the late 40's and early 50's they are all so very close.
As has been said, there is no rationing of love - it comes along with each baby as they arrive.