Feeling more Helpless

I would send a gift for the GGC and maybe a cheque for GS and partner. That way you know whether it is cashed. I would see this as a way to offer an olive branch and try and keep a path of communication open. Young men find it hard to climb down but it may offer him a chance. Maybe a chatt letter as well giving some of your news. Do hope things improve.

Sending a gift to someone who has let you know that they do not enjoy hearing from you is not a kindness, in a way its quite the opposite.

Sending just to the child will give you the best chance of it being well met all round, it may show that you are appreciating that the adult wants distance from you and may build a working relationship with regards contact to the child?.

Horrid situation. Yes, go with your heart but I agree and think a gift for the little one only. They may accept things for their child that they would reject for themselves. If this year a gift were accepted for the child it's a step forward. If not you have tried. So sorry you are in this painful place. Enjoy your a Christmas away.

What does your heart tell you?
I'd send a gift for the wee one, card to the adults.
If the gift comes back then sadly you will know where you stand.
Sometimes we just cannot make everything right, I'd make the gesture to the wee one.
So sorry nothing has improved. x