Grandchild not allowed to visit my home

No one in my family/ friends etc. ever smoked, but if they had, I wouldn’t have wanted my children around it. It comes under the banner of simply not warranting taking the risk. Dangerous chemicals hang around, no matter what amount of cleaning you do. I probably would have spent my time pressuring them to stop smoking, as a nurse, that would have worried me more.

I'm sorry, but I'm with your son on this one. There is no way I'd have let my children visit their grandparents if they smoked. His child, his rules. The way I see it, if smoking is more important to the person than their grandchild, that says it all...

As has already been pointed out, and more than once, this thread is 4 years old. Anyone responding to the OP is probably talking to an empty room ?

I know plenty of parents who don’t take their young babies on long car trips for precisely that reason Hetty. Often to the consternation of extended family

As someone who has never smoked but was exposed to 2nd and 3rd hand smoke throughout my childhood and suffers from chronic, severe asthma and takes multiple medications daily to ensure I don’t DIE- grandparents who insist on exposing their grandkids to any sort of smoke exposure- 3rd or otherwise, are despicable. It’s a disgusting, filthy habit and tbh I wish all parents took 3rd hand smoke exposure seriously and actually made the appropriate levels of demands upon family members who insist on smoking.

The OP may have gone, but we can still talk about it, it’s an interesting subject.

It is clear, OH quit smoking.