Your money or your grandsons

That is abuse and blackmail.
Please do not do this. A man who makes that threat will never give you what you want but will have no problem throwing you out.

How disgusting is this ? Tell him to take a running jump.

Before you know it you'll be homeless, what a money grabbing moron.

Don't even think about it he will have you out of the house as soon as he could if you did this.Have you any other family members to put him in his place do not be browbeaten by this bully.

And that’s a no from me too!

see a solicitor and get a will cutting him out completely after your death. What a piece of

I think you need some professional support with this Jgran

Call Hourglass, it's a helpline for elder abuse

0808 808 8141

How old are your grandsons and what does their mother think of all this? When I first read your thread I couldn't believe it could be true as surely nobody could behave this badly. But, assuming it is true, I would not give in and I would cut him out of your will. He sounds like a psychopath.

YOUR SON DESERVES NOTHING FROM YOU. I HOPE YOU HAVE CUT HIM RIGHT OUT OF YOUR WIL

Dear dear - I am so sorry your son is behaving so badly. Do not give in to his blackmail - if only because you have no way of keeping him to his word.

Yu must be so disappointed in him - I do feel for you.

No, no, no!
That's blackmail.
If he was my son I'd have told him what to do with himself.

I would advise you to get legal advice, have your money put in a trust for you grandsons so that only they, when they are old enough, can use it, so he can never touch it.

You have my sympathy.
Is he your only family?

Starblaze

I think you need some professional support with this Jgran

Call Hourglass, it's a helpline for elder abuse

0808 808 8141

I agree, what a dreadful man your son is! Personally, I would be tempted to cut him out of the will too. Your home is your security, he should be looking after you and supporting you in your advancing years not pressuring you and blackmailing you.

What a nasty piece of work, even if you were daft enough to do this, which I sincerely hope you’re not, he’ll use this threat again and again.
We don’t know the whole situation, age of GS’s, whereabouts and your relationship with them, or their mother.
Heed the words of other posters and my thoughts are with you.

I think that you should contact "Hourglass" asap as Starblaze says. You need advice and support with this.

Are you a new poster, JGran?
If so welcome and I hope you find the help you so clearly need.

See a solicitor, cut him out of your will and leave a note with your solicitor to be given to your grandchildren on your death; detail what a piece of sh*t their Father is, and why they have not been able to spend time with their grandmother. How awful for you. Do you have any other family that you could tell about this? Others need to know what he is like and why he is out of your will. If you don't have other family, you must sort out your will asap or he will get your house and estate anyway.

Agree with what everyone else has said JGran. The ultimate in using children as weapons; disgraceful.

this is coercive control, which is an offence. in uk.
report to police.
you may need protection.
good luck.

Do not sign anything. He sounds truly obnoxious - seek legal advice ASAP. He appears to be attempting to blackmail you, using the grandchildren as a weapon. Disgraceful.

Sorry to hear this JGran I agree with everyone else, even though he is your son you clearly cannot trust him. Don't agree to his demands as he will renege on his promise, which was only to consider things. I'm sad for you as it means being cut off from your grandsons. Bear in mind this would still probably happen if you agreed.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I can only echo what others have said; no, no, no. And I'm truly sorry that your son has demonstrated how vile a human being can be.