Sara1954
I I knew next to nothing about dyslexia, but when my son started at the village school it became very clear that something was wrong.
I spent two years arguing with them, they said he was lazy, disruptive, failing to engage in lessons. His teacher kept showing me other childrens work, and comparing it with my sons, to point out how useless he was.
Our daughter was at a girls independent school, and financial considerations had decided us to leave our son at the village school till he was eight, but we knew we would be doing a lot of harm.
We took him to another independent school, not mentioning anything, when we picked him up they asked if we were aware he had a serious learning problem, probably dyslexia. We were so relieved, and within months he was starting to read, with a lot of help.
Not saying this happens everywhere, but I don’t think it’s an isolated incident.
It was a very steep learning curve, wasn't it Sara. Interesting, we had almost a reverse experience. We started with our local state primary. After two years, they told us that my DD "was a problem" rather than had a problem.
We moved her to a prep school that had a good reputation in the "3 Rs". Looking back, I realise I would not have known what sort of "good" was needed as I didn't know what was wrong. Although, having had my son, who seemed to have "broken the reading code" at two, I realised my DD couldn't.
When we found her teacher had stood her on a chair to tell the class how stupid she was after a spelling test and that other archaic methods were in use, we moved her again. The only school with places in our small town was the one to which no one wanted to send their children. It turned out they were amazing.
Knowing I was concerned, the Head Teacher asked what I wanted. I said I just wanted my happy, outgoing child back; I didn't care if she was "clever" or not. Within a few weeks of gently coaxing her out of her shell, they tested and found she was dyslexic. DD got extra hours with a dyslexia-trained teacher (they were rare). We then paid for further lessons when the inevitable cutbacks happened.
She made it into secondary school for us to find that, although we had been told they "specialised" in dyslexia, her English teacher thought it was a middle-class "get-out". We paid for outside specialist teaching as we didn't want to move her again.
She swept the board in her GCSEs except for English which she just failed. Staying on she started "A" levels while she got her English. We, including DD, now knew more about the system.
At the end of that year, she moved to the local College, was assessed and offered some help. Dyslexia was now widely recognised. She did BTECs and then on to an HND. Later, once she had started working, this was added to, giving her a Boris level Degree. She then moved into teaching and got her teaching qualifications. Changing the part of education she worked in, and while still working, she took a Masters's Degree. Once again she was assessed. Her dyslexia hadn't changed; the scores were the same. The educational psychologist was amazed at the coping skills she had acquired over the years. You may guess I am very, very proud of her as none of this comes without hard work and dedication.
Personally, my experience makes me feel that it is not the way the school is paid for that matters - we went a very different route with my son. It is their ethos and the quality of the teachers and how that fits your child. If I could have done, I would have paid the head and teachers in the local "sink" Primary School in gold bars. However, state schools in leafy areas were also underwhelming and we have seen good and bad from both State and Independent.
All you can do is be as knowledgeable as possible and hope that your research and gut feelings give you an accurate view. I certainly do not want the state provided educational system to be decided by other people's extremist political views. What I do want, is the cuts to stop and a well-funded, knowledgeable State system to be available.